I know it has for me. Sometime in early March it suddenly seemed possible, do-able (talk about surprising!), and right to take a month off in sacred retreat. I leave on April 25th, the day after the peak of the Grand Cross, and I will return at the end of May.
If I’m any example, the energies of shakeup and surprise have been present for a while now. Otherwise I wouldn’t have been open to the idea of a healing road trip and a full month away from my business. I’ll be packing my car full of what heals and nourishes and restores me and traveling to Big Sur, Santa Barbara, Joshua Tree (the desert), Kernville (Sequoia National Forest), Mammoth Mountain (Death Valley, Kings Canyon), South Lake Tahoe, and Sonora (Yosemite). Big trees. Canyons. Ancient lodgepole pines. Desert. Five days at a women’s Buddhist retreat.
I traveled to Ireland, England and France in 2010, my first and so far only trip across the Atlantic. Amazing. Sacred. Healing. I visited many sacred and ancient places. I pulled some pictures of my favorites: the Black Abbey, Avebury, Newgrange, Stonehenge, and the ocher hills in the Luberon in Provence (in the order they’re in in the photo strip).
It was excruciating in 2010, to open the door to leaving my business and my clients for that long. I don’t know about you, but since I’ve been in business for myself my vacations have been occasional three- and four-day outings, with an occasional full week. Each break was difficult for me at first, I am so much more comfortable with routine duty and obligation than I am with treating myself like a queen who of course needs, deserves and must have balance, restoration and just plain fabulousity in her life! So I’m setting aside what’s comfortable and inviting the surprising.
I’ve learned so much about this. Not only it is really important for me to take a healing break for me, it’s also so important for my clients to see me do this… this allows them — and you! — to drink in the idea that self-love and self-care can include audacious and surprising moves just like this one. My clients inspire me! I have a client who walked the Camino in Spain last year… she planted a big juicy seed in me when she took nearly two months off to nurture herself in such an amazing way.
This time, for my 2014 month away — perhaps because I’ve done it once before, and perhaps because of this amazing astrological energy of change that’s brewing — I’m finding that it’s a bit easier. I decided to stay close to home and keep expenses down (this month off should cost less than half of my Europe journey), and this Eclipse — Grand Cross — Eclipse energy seems to be shining ease and a thrum of excitement to my planning.
This next couple of weeks may cause a lot to shift. What felt stable and predictable may change, may even dissolve, and something surprising may appear on the horizon. Spend some time under the light of the Full Moon pondering the rest of 2014. What’s coming? What will unfold for you? Roll with it, beautiful one. Allow. Don’t try to rush the changes, and don’t resist them either.
Logistics: I will have one more blogpost for you in my normal schedule next weekend. I will have some guest posts go up when I’m gone. I may pop in and blog photos if I have any that I love, but I’m taking a writing break until the end of May.
What is brewing in you? Don’t brush away the surprising and unexpected — and audacious! — ideas that come to you during this time. Hear them, express them, live them! I’d love to hear from you in the comments… talk to me, beloved!
I know the facilitator had nothing but my healing in mind when she told me to go deeper, and to reach for more. I’m not sure exactly what she had in mind a little later when she suggested that because I wasn’t having a deep and profound experience I was perhaps disassociating.
I know from my own experience as a student of transformational technologies, and as a teacher, that not everyone has the same capacity — in any given moment — for a breakthrough. That everyone has her own pace, her own journey, and follows her own unique path. Which is often not linear nor predictable — a spiral that bends back upon itself and then goes forward and then bends again…. I also believe that techniques are not cookie cutters — not everyone is a good fit for everything.
In my own private practice, I find that every client is unique and that what tools and techniques work for one may not work for another, or maybe not in the same order, or maybe it will take longer for one to get the benefit than for another. Even in my group trainings, with a set curriculum, I make space for lots of individualization, as needed, because my clients are beautiful, quirky, unique individuals.
Whether you’re learning something, or teaching something, being a participant in a workshop, or leading your own class, be yourself. Your beautiful, human, self. As you are. The more you can do this, the more you can find, claim and rock your niche!
This workshop I attended offered me a powerful opportunity to realize and take ownership of something very useful…What you have, who you are, these are your unique gifts. Everything you have survived and transformed becomes the gifts you can offer to the people you serve.
There are many reasons to claim your niche for your business
How are you going with claiming your niche? Is it easy? Is there any resistance, any stuckness? Share your experience in the comments!
This New Moon invites you to get your chutzpah on, beautiful one!
Spring into action (boing!), take risks, stand tall, plant your flag, and go for it!
We are at the beginning of the new astrological year now, with the Sun and Moon in Aries, and possibilities can truly seem endless. All the intentions we have nurtured since the Solstice are fired into motion now. Aries loves to move forward, to blaze a trail, to conquer obstacles. With Mars as its ruler, Aries lights a fire under whatever may have been holding you back. Let that flame melt your fears, your resistance, your wavering commitment. Strap that jet pack on your back and light the fuse, sister!
Desire, discovery, curiosity, passion, purpose — you may feel these more strongly. I hope you do, and that you heed the call to forward motion. What do you feel passionate about? What motivates you into action? What do you want, and do you have the chutzpah to go after it?
That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. It’s like you undergo a kind of identity change when you step into “work mode.”
You’ve done so much work on yourself. You reached the point in your life where you’ve had the vision, felt the calling, allowed passion and purpose to motivate you into being of service in your business.
All the skills, learning, experience and practices have made you the woman that you are, and have brought you this far.
Everything that comprises the woman that you are — a beautiful regal woman who walks her talk, who has a big and loving heart, who is generous, who feels called to serve — that’s your personal brand. Your values. The way you show up. Your self-care. How you love. All of the above… But what happens when you turn your attention and devote your bandwidth — your time, your treasure, your talent — to your business?
When your livelihood ($$$) is on the line, you can easily lose that beautiful glowing silken cord that ties your heart to your business. Based on fear, you start interacting with your business and making decisions from stress instead of from love.
Fear of failure. Fear of loss. Fear can drive you to seeing our business as a foreign object, instead of as a manifestation, reflection and organic representation of your best and highest: your values, your passion, your mission and purpose.
By the time April rolls around, you may find it a bit harder to access that serenity, and that calm.
First, of course, let’s remember that every Full Moon is a culmination moment. This is the time to look back over the last couple of weeks, and acknowledge with gratitude what has come to pass, how you have manifested your intentions. Under the light of this Full Moon this weekend, take some time to bask in her glow and express gratitude for what has come to pass, and state your sacred intentions for the coming lunation.
You can do this on your own, or you can circle with other women… However you choose to mark this moment, know that I will be marking it with you, and that our regal selves are connected on our journey.
This is one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my long journey as a seeker. I learned this from my t’ai chi teacher, and the concept is a lifesaver. I have written about the many lessons stillness and patience give you before, here and more recently here.
Picture yourself being in the stream grounded and ease, moving a bit without being overwhelmed and knocked over. Neither are you being rigid, trying to change the stream’s flow (we all know how effective that is!).
You know what I mean? I bet you do.
Water yields, it goes over, around and through things. Yet, although water is soft and weak, it has the capacity to erode solid stone and move mountains.
It is said that this teaching — the action of non-action — came from Lao Tzu. In t’ai chi I was taught this as the central idea in effortless combat. There’s never a reason to go looking for a fight. Never. Let go of every piece of that ego that seeks to punish, or even to win. When someone comes at you with weight, or anger, each response of yours, each and every move, can come from you effortlessly, without conscious planning. This allows you to react and respond to everything that comes your way easily, expending just the right amount of effort, and without any harmful results (to yourself or anyone else!).
Like playing with clouds, yo.