Freedom from perfectionism — shift to ready-go-reset

Here’s one powerful way to free yourself from perfectionist paralysis

And actually get your stuff out there so the people who need it can receive it, see it, and use it!

Ready-go-reset. Then go and reset again!
If you find yourself getting trapped in writing, re-writing, planning, replanning, delaying launch dates, and then delaying them again — your inner perfectionist may be holding you back. So far back that you wonder if you’ll ever get what you know you are meant to offer out of your head and into the hands, head, and heart of the people you are here to help.

Shift from ready-set-go to ready-go-reset.

And then reset and go again, as many times as you need to.

I’m getting ready to launch a new part of the #ShareYourMagic movement called Conscious Collaboration. (The “Let’s-do this!” announcement with live links is coming, as soon as everything is ready, hopefully in a week — I have let go of perfectionism, just need to get the many pieces in place!). 

I’ve written an eBook, and I’m offering a Facebook group as well where we can learn from each other and support each other in our social networking. This is very exciting! And yet, I find myself a full month behind my original launch date. Here’s what I’ve noticed:

  • Perfectionism paralysis: Until last week I didn’t even realize that my fiddling and fiddling and fiddling some more with the words and the design was keeping me from moving down the launch list.
  • What do I do first? I let my confusion about what to do first stop me from doing anything much at all! Yes it’s true that if I change my opt-in I must also change settings on my email provider, and language on my Thank You pages, and more. But not knowing what to do first is a really bad reason to delay moving ahead!
  • What if it’s not perfect? It won’t be. No matter how many times I proofread, and my editors proofread…. No matter how many times I tweak the design and the examples…. something will certainly be wrong, and more than one thing will certainly benefit from being revised.

That’s where the shift comes in.

The ready-set-go model can keep you stuck in perfectionism paralysis. You prepare (ready), and tweak and tweak and edit and proofread and tweak some more (set, set, set, set, set….), until you finally Go! And then you think it should be done and done, and nevermore revisited, or reset. Takes forever, and leaves you stuck.

Instead, try this: Shift to ready-go-reset!

  • Ready: prepare and execute. Do your outlines. Do your research. Gather your thoughts. Plan a timeline. Write it. Check it. Do your best with your launch list.
  • Go: send it out into the world. Celebrate. Gather the feedback. When the time feels right, take another look. And…
  • Reset. Make the changes that need to be made. Revise with the understanding and wisdom you’ve gleaned from the way the material was received and understood. And go again.

Lather-rinse-repeat. This keeps your work living, breathing, dynamic, and responsive. Over time your resets will get spaced farther apart. And you will get better, quicker, and more nimble at creation and launching.

What about you? What have you learned? Please share your wisdom and questions in the comments. Blessed be!

Posted on March 25th, 2015. Posted in these categories: business, business development, launch. 12 Comments

Release and renewal — New Moon Solar Eclipse

So much goodness going on this week!

The last of seven Pluto-Uranus squares since 2012, the New Moon Solar Eclipse, and the Equinox are bringing lots of energy of release and renewal — endings and beginnings.
Release and renew — New Moon Solar Eclipse

New Moon
Solar Eclipse

Friday, March 20th
29º27′ Pisces
2:36 am Pacific
5:36 am Eastern

Sun enters Aries

Friday, March 20th
3:45 pm Pacific
6:45 pm Eastern

Pluto-Uranus square

March 11–28

There’s a strong theme of releasing and renewing

This Pluto-Uranus square invites you to choose how we are going to live now, and for the rest of your life. This invitation can manifest in a number of ways.

  • You are invited to stop taking things so personally. Start here: “When I feel rejected, or slighted, or fearful in my business I connect to my heart, and remember that there is always room for love, even here.”
  • You are invited to forgive, forgive all of it, step into your sovereignty, and create a positive reality. Start here: “The past is history. The future is a mystery. The present is a gift; I live and do my sacred work in the present.”
  • You are invited to do your sacred work in the world: manifest the love, the service, and the justice you want to see and watch these awesome qualities ripple out from your heart — to your family, your friends, your loved ones, your clients, your community, your world. Start here: “I invite my dreams to shine and reveal themselves to me so I can manifest them.”

Pisces is all about transcendence and intention. It’s an inside job.

  • The Equinox ushers Spring here in the northern hemisphere, and the impulse and desire to clear out  what no longer serves you and make room for the new may be stronger at this time. Go with it! Lovingly release what has outgrown its usefulness. Gift what you can to others. There’s a deep shift and opening that happens when you declutter your office, your storage spaces, and make room for the new. Release everything that has outworn its usefulness.
  • Try yoga, meditation, or any spiritual discipline that calls to you. Or recommit if you’re out of practice. Connect to Spirit, to the Divine. Enjoy the exploration. What calls to you? Are you inspired by something you read? I love my daily walks. Thirty minutes or more basking in the fresh air, gazing afar (instead of at a computer screen) — heals my body and lightens my spirit.
  • The Eclipse invites you to step into sacred ritual. Any personal ritual will serve you here — journaling how you experience this balance point between the Solstices, making a list of what you are called to birth during this next season, painting one or all of the affirmations above — allow, express, listen to, and acknowledge your intuitive, passionate, Divine Feminine heart.

This is really interesting

According to one of the articles I read while preparing to write this for you, it seems to be a fact that this is the only time in 5,000 years that there has a been a Solar Eclipse at 29º Pisces. If this is true, we may be moving from a long cycle into a new one. Do you feel urgency to get it done? Even if what will come of your beautiful actions is shrouded in mystery?

What if the new cycle is all about women’s equality with men? What if the bold, audacious expression of your Divine Feminine helps every man’s feminine side bloom? Take ownership of your own mission and methods, be who you truly are, and let your light shine. Listen to the whispers of your heart, let it guide and empower you, express yourself, and be of beautiful service!

How is this week’s New Moon energy landing for you?

I’d love to know. Please talk to me in the comments. Blessed be!

Goddess holding eclipsed Moon image courtesy Curezone
Posted on March 18th, 2015. Posted in these categories: New Moon, release, renew. 20 Comments

Manifest and sustain your sacred business

Three ways to get unstuck, stay connected, and rock being of service

Manifest and sustain your sacred business

Yes, you can manifest and sustain a business that reflects your most sacred mission and purpose.

Maybe you know what it’s like to feel like you’re losing the connection to your passionate sense of mission and purpose that inspired you to take that crazy leap and start your business in the first place.

  • Have you lost sight of what being of service truly means to you?
  • Are you wondering how to communicate with your ideal clients in a nourishing way that shows them your most tender heart?
  • Has self-care, balance, and fun dropped off your schedule?

Don’t worry, darling! I have three gifts for you right here…

…three ways that will help you get the magic back and dance lightly and joyfully in the business of your dreams.

  • Get really clear about your heart’s mission and soul’s purpose (this is where your amazing magic comes from!). When you are crystal clear about your vision, and about what being of service truly looks like in your heart, it becomes so easy to clear the obstacles from your path. This helps you know in a deep and effective way exactly who your ideal client is, and takes any ickiness out of your marketing. Because, bubbeleh, when you know who your ideal client is, it’s like you’re talking to a cherished friend, and that’s easy, right?
  • Work with your ideal clients in a way that lights you up every day. When your tribe — your subscribers, your social media followers — contains the people you are meant to serve, your prospects become passionate dedicated clients, and your clients stick around and come back for more. When you have this in place, you will feel freer and unconstrained as you move through all the activities you do to sustain your business. And when you’re lit up, when your heart is shining through, your clients light up too!
  • Implement your sacred self-care so your business nourishes you rather than depletes you. As a passionate, dedicated business owner, it’s so easy to let self-care drop off your schedule. I’m a big believer in taking care of you. Hanging out in work-work-work, without supportive self-care practices (exercise, meditation, naps, playtime) can end up wearing you down, affecting your health and making it harder to manifest the magic in your business—for yourself and for your clients.

The good news, and a little bit of promotion

When you have these three things in place, you can connect more deeply with your right clients and share the magic of your sacred, spiritual, meaningful business. These are the three strands that weave together to make the beautiful tapestry that is your life and business. In Share Your Magic coaching, we can deal with them all at the right time, in the right and perfect order. You can release the myth of “I’m a powerful woman, I should be able to do this on my own!” and you can get the support you need.

I have room for two clients in my one-to-one coaching practice. Maybe one of them is you! You can fill out the form at the bottom of the Share Your Magic page, or you can reach me at 510-698-6245 or by email at .

The three tips — What did I leave out?

What do you do to reground, to restore balance, to rock your beautiful business? Let’s talk in the comments.

Posted on March 11th, 2015. Posted in these categories: sacred business. 12 Comments

Open to receive. Say “Yes!”

Are you open to receive? Are you a “Yes!” to unexpected gifts and invitations?

Open to receive. Say "Yes!"

Yes, that’s a picture of Kaua’i, and I’ll tell you why.

I’ve been yearning to return to Hawai’i. I’ve been there exactly twice in my life, and each time I felt like I was visiting one of my heart’s homes — a feeling that permanently resonates in my heart. You know what I mean? Those places where you feel like you’ve already lived, where you feel like you belong, where you feel like you could thrive. Hawai’i is like that for me. Provence as well. And always and forever Brooklyn. But I digress…

I’ve traveled almost not at all since I got so sick last year. And wasn’t really planning to do anything any time soon in the way of travel besides local road trips, for health reasons as well as financial reasons.

And then my friend — I’ll call him Walter because it’s his name — surprised me with an amazing gift. Walter goes to Hawai’i to golf eight times a year and has a timeshare plan where he gets a condo each time he goes. I asked him once, after meeting up with him on the Big Island last time I visited, if he ever had a guest room in his timeshares. He said “Yes!”

It was interesting to watch my reaction. It was hard to accept the gift.

  • In order to accept a week on Kaua’i I knew I would have to ask Walter some questions that made me very uncomfortable. Questions about expectations, and questions about sleeping arrangements. A very big part of my monkey mind would have been much more comfortable, thank you, if I just said “No, thanks,” and moved on. The conversations Walter and I had in response to my questions were amazing!

    Check this out: Walter told me that he had begun to wonder how he could share this bounty with others. Right about that time, I asked him if I could stay with him. Amazing how the universe works sometimes. Seren-freaking-dipity! Would never have happened if I hadn’t asked. Would never have happened if Walter hadn’t already decided to open things up.

  • In order to be a “Yes!” to the offer, I would have to look at my fear about my health and my finances. Do I have the bandwidth to fly, to pack and schlep luggage, to step out of my comfort zone, to figure out things like “What do I do with my phone and rental car key when I’m snorkeling?”

    I’ve been a solo traveler a lot in my life, and I’ve learned how to lower the bar. I have nothing to prove to anyone. As I learned long ago from Jen Louden, I can set “conditions of enoughness” and meet myself exactly where I’m at. I can rest as much as I want, walk as much as I want, snorkel as much as I want (I will figure out what to do with the phone and car keys!), and then rest some more.

  • I had to get past some other crazy ego resistances to get to “Yes.” Like “not glamorous enough,” “not a long enough trip.” Ugh, sometimes I just amaze myself.

I said “Yes!” I fly to Kaua’i on May 3rd.

Are you open to receive?

What do you need to do, or change, to get to “Yes!”?

  • When you are asked to contribute a blogpost, or be interviewed for a podcast about your business — something that may help you grow your business — is it easy for you to accommodate the request? What gets in the way?
  • That enthusiasm that arises when you say “Yes!” to something you like? Allow yourself to connect to that feeling so you can be a “Yes” to something you don’t like. “Yes” to a difficult client. “Yes” to the pain in your body. “Yes” to your negative thoughts. “Yes” to the positive ones!
  • See if this works for you: Say “Yes” as a way to escape your own self-obsession and enjoy the relief that comes when you think of someone else for a while.

What comes up for you when you read this? I’d love to hear your thoughts; jump into the conversation in the comments section below. And if you have a foolproof way to snorkel solo and protect your possessions, for the love of the Goddess, tell me!

Posted on March 4th, 2015. Posted in these categories: acceptance, receive. 38 Comments

The Full Moon in Virgo — reason meets spirituality

Every Full Moon is a culmination point

What have you created and completed since the last New Moon?

How have you manifested your creativity and your passion since the New Moon? The Full Moon is the time to celebrate what you have created, completed, and launched. It’s an auspicious moment to express gratitude for what has blossomed and borne fruit from the seeds you planted at the previous New Moon, make note of what is still left to do, and to set your intentions for the coming lunation.

Full Moon in Virgo — where reason meets spirituality

How does the nourishing healing spirit of this Full Moon show up for you?

Full Moon in Virgo

Thursday, March 5th
14º50′ Virgo
10:05 am Pacific
1:05 pm Eastern

The Virgo Full Moon is the last Full Moon before the Equinox. Virgo brings healing, nurturing, and organizing energy. Decluttering and spring cleaning starts to be a thing in the northern hemisphere around this time. I’m guessing that in the southern hemisphere the Virgo New Moon six months later (when you approach Spring) will bring the same impulse. Let me know if I’m right.

  • You may find yourself moved to declutter — the Virgo Full Moon is a great time for cleaning out closets and donating to a meaningful charity or friends-in-need. Go for it!

    In addition to recycling, or donating, though, I invite you to consider repurposing. Could that beautiful silk shirt that got stained be cut up and used in a quilt? Or those boots that are too old to wear could be made into planters!

  • Use the nurturing Virgo energy to take exquisite care of yourself, your business, and your loved ones. Complete what you started, get organized, and dive into the details. I always schedule my tax preparation in the two weeks following this Full Moon. Luckily I have an accountant that can handle receiving my numbers late in March!

  • Speaking of exquisite self-care, you may feel called to cleanse or purify in some way. Remember, this is the Full Moon where reason meets spirituality. Are you called to do something out of the ordinary for your beautiful body which is the vehicle of your consciousness? Or does it appear differently for you: Are you moved to release something in your business that just isn’t working out the way you’d planned? What is that loving voice in your heart whispering to you?

Suggestions for a Full Moon ritual

There’s a strong sense of freedom in this Full Moon.

  • Place something in your altar space to help you remember to cut the ties to what is holding you back. A broken piece of chain, a scissor, or a knife might do nicely.
  • Spend time in the light of the Moon, if you can. Write a gratitude list. And make note of your intentions. What will you complete? What will you release?
  • Celebrate! The Jewish festival of Purim, and the last of the Lunar New Year celebrations happen now. Join the fun or make some of your own.

Let me know how you go. What questions arise for you? Where is letting go easy? Where is it a challenge? Let’s talk in the comments.

Posted on February 25th, 2015. Posted in these categories: decluttering, Full Moon, spirituality. 18 Comments

Living your best life — wisdom from my health journey

Three wellness practices to help you live your best life…

…and show up for your business resourced and ready to go.

This is the first in a series of occasional articles in which I’ll share practices, recipes, and more from my vast wellness toolbag. My health journey has been a big invitation for me to be more and more present to the choices I make. Maybe something I share will be useful to you. You don’t know unless you try. So, bubbeleh, try.

Live your best lifeWe choose all the time.

  • You choose what you eat and how much.
  • You choose the content of what you read and what you watch.
  • You choose how you spend your time.
  • You choose how you move your body, and for how long.
  • You choose the people in your life.

It’s your choice what you do with every minute of your precious life. Fill each moment with the things and the people you love and cherish. Change yourself and by doing so, watch how it ripples out. You will change your family, your clients, your friends, your community. You will change the world.

Today I’m sharing with you three game-changing practices (okay, two practices and one recipe) that can help you maintain fitness and flexibility and a positive outlook.

Make time every day for self-care.

Put it in your schedule.

The only way to sustain a self-care practice is to actually put it in your schedule. (You do use a calendar, right? If you don’t, we should talk. Seriously.) When you elevate self-care to a commitment, and put it in your calendar, you are much more likely to be a Yes to your own precious self.

I have made a big shift here. Since my health crisis last year, I now begin my workday at 10:30, three hours after I get up. I use those three hours for a bath, my daily walk, my tai chi practice, my lifting and yoga workouts, my art journal, time in the garden, and whatever kitchen activities might be on the agenda. Sometimes I invite a friend along to walk with me. Sometimes I connect by phone with a friend. Sometimes I get a massage.

To make up for my later workday starts, some days I work a bit later, and I often work on one of the weekend days. Totally worth it!

You may not be ready for three hours a day of self-care time. But I know you’re ready for some time every day to honor your body and your sacred self. Give yourself this gift.

Walk for 30-ish minutes a day.

Honestly, it can be that simple.

I started this practice last autumn, when I began to wonder if I would ever get my strength back after the two hospitalizations and the long weeks on the couch or in bed processing serious infection and medications through my body. I started by walking around the block. Or maybe just to the corner and back. But I kept at it daily. Now I average 25–35 minutes each day. I walk in my gritty urban neighborhood most days, and love the wide streets and big sky available to me just a few blocks away. Some days I get in my car and drive to the bay. Some days I walk by Lake Merritt. Some rare and precious days I actually walk in the redwoods or at the seashore.

I love that my phone tracks my movements, tells me how long I walked, how many steps I took, how many stairs I’ve climbed. Many people say that 10,000 steps is ideal; others say that a 30-minute daily walk will prolong your life. I’m not near the 10,000, and I don’t know how often I will make that number of steps, but I am near the 30-minute mark nearly every day, and that is such a gift to my body!

It’s said that your body is not yours, that’s it’s just borrowed. That at the end of your life, you have to leave it behind. Treat it with care, yo. It’s precious. Treat it generously and impeccably, so that it will serve you well.

Nourish your gut with bone broth.

Vegetarians get to skip this one (although I know some vegetarians who make this one exception).

I’ve been a daily drinker of bone broth for quite a while, and have really perfected my recipe. I’ve had a serious chronic digestive situation for over three years, and bone broth is one of the first remedies suggested to me. It’s healing, and strengthening, and delicious.

I use three vinegars, because why not? I use brown vinegar (brown because there’s molasses added; this should be available in Asian markets, I get mine at Berkeley Bowl), raw apple cider vinegar, and kombucha vinegar that I make (if you’re a brewer, let a batch of kombucha overbrew by a week or so and you will have vinegar!). You can do a fine job with just the raw cider vinegar. The vinegars help extract all the goodness from the bones.

Quantities of everything depend on the size of your soup pot. I buy 3–5 pounds of bones, I use a spaghetti pot for my broth, and I end up with three quart-size canning jars of broth when I’m done. Your mileage will vary.

  • Buy marrow bones, gelatinous bones if you can get them, tendons, and a piece of inexpensive meat for the pot. The more grass-fed the better, of course.
  • Roast the meat at 425 for 25 minutes.
  • Boil a pot of water. Add sliced ginger and 1–2 T of brown vinegar. Add the bones and meat. Simmer a long time. I do 1.5–2 days.
  • Remove the bones, ginger, and meat. I keep the meat in a separate jar for adding to the broth, or I just eat it. Decant the broth filling jars halfway or a bit more. Refrigerate the jars.
  • Put the bones and ginger back in the pot with new water. This time I add 1 T cider vinegar  and 1 T kombucha vinegar and simmer again for a day or two. Get rid of the bones and ginger (this time for good), add the broth to the jars. ***If there’s a layer of solid fat at the top of the first batch, break that up so the two batches mix. Keep the fat that rises to the top until you’re ready to have that broth; it helps retard spoilage.***

I’d love to know what practices are at the top of your own best life list, and if you have any questions. Please join the conversation in the comments. I love to hear from you!

Posted on February 18th, 2015. Posted in these categories: healing, wellness. 20 Comments

What are you called to create, complete, and launch?

It’s an awesome invitation! You are invited to create, complete, and launch.

The New Moon. Mercury direct in Aquarius. The Sun entering Pisces and the Lunar New Year. What a lovely invitation!

New Moon in Aquarius, Mercury direct, Lunar New Year

Mercury has gone direct in Aquarius, and the Moon is New in Aquarius (again!)

New Moon in Aquarius

Wednesday, Feb. 18th
29º59′ Aquarius
3:47 pm Pacific
6:47 pm Eastern

Lunar New Year

Wednesday, Feb. 18th
Year of the wood sheep

Sun enters Pisces

Wednesday, Feb. 18th
3:50 pm Pacific
6:50 pm Eastern

Mercury direct in Aquarius


Create, complete, and launch. This is a rare second Aquarian New Moon in the same month. While the first one was at 0º (and therefore integrated with the energy of the preceding sign, Capricorn), this one is only in Aquarius for a couple of heartbeats. The New Moon comes at 29°59′ Aquarius, and then enters Pisces ten seconds later (with the Sun right behind).

Aquarius and Pisces combine their energies to inspire you to create, complete, and launch the things that have taken priority as you mulled them over during the Mercury retrograde (Rx) that has just ended. You are now invited to nurture your vision, to innovate, to dare to move forward!

When the New Moon appears in an Air sign, as it does here, the two-week period that follows is a wonderful time to communicate and inspire; combined with the end of the Mercury Rx, now’s the time to release the brakes (on whatever you were prudently postponing) and go for it!

Turn your attention to what you are called to create, complete, and launch for your business.

  • Do you have a new program? Have you created it? Does it need some work? Plan your strategy sessions, seek out and form your joint venture alliances.
  • Do you have something that’s almost ready to launch? Work out your message to your tribe, put the last pieces into place, and go!
  • Take some time with the structures and mental health of your business. What administrative improvements can you put in place? What planning, team building, and heartstorming can you do now?

Lunar New Year — the Year of the Wood Sheep

The apparent docility of Sheep can hide toughness. Sheep can survive severe conditions and are stronger than they appear. The Sheep can be very focused and determined. A Sheep won’t be told what to do, stay at a job they dislike, or be forced to compromise.

The Sheep year celebrates creativity. Another invitation! Let your artist out. Get some paint and some paper. Play with color. I’ve been wildly happy since I began my art journal in the beginning of this year, since I moved my art supplies out of the closet (see what I did there?) and started using them. I’ve begun to post some of what I’m creating here.

What are you called to create, complete, and launch? I’d love to know — talk to me in the comments! Blessed be.

Posted on February 12th, 2015. Posted in these categories: creativity, New Moon. 26 Comments