I’ve always thought that it’s more than just “resolutions” that are needed to make effective and lasting changes. I’ve written about resolutions and how by themselves they just don’t have enough energy attached to do the job. As you can see when you compare the crowds in the gym or at your local 12-step meeting in early January and a month later. Yup, resolutions in action. You can read a few of the articles I’ve written about this very thing here and here and here.
Once you have done this completion and release work, then your intentions (and resolutions) have a much stronger foundation and a much better chance of sustained success.
Every subscriber to my weekly loveletter will receive a free download link to the updated and revised workbook starting this week and going until the end of December. I’ve given a lot of gifts away this birthday month, and I’m closing it out with this gift from my heart to yours. It’s a beautiful and useful book. Set aside an hour or so and do some work that will help you set the foundation for changes for the coming year.
Look for the link in your copy of my loveletter in the coming weeks, and if you are not yet a subscriber, you can opt in right here.
I’m turning to three quotes from Mary Oliver to close this post. Because she really says it:
“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it is over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
“The most regretful people on earth are those who felt the call to creative work, who felt their own creative power restive and uprising, and gave to it neither power nor time.”
“Sometimes I need
only to stand
wherever I am
to be blessed.”
I’d love it if you’d chime in in the comments; how’s your year-end ritual shaping up?
Practicing tai chi can be a lifetime journey. No lie, it nearly is in my case; it’s been over 40 years now. They call it “practice” for good reason.
Every single repetition, every single practice, invites you to focus on the moment, on what you are doing right now. Not on what you can’t do. Not on yesterday’s form or tomorrow’s challenge. But This.Now.Moment.
When you focus on and practice what’s in front of you, you move toward mastery with every breath. Mastery of the movement. Mastery of the interaction. Mastery in your work. Mastery in your business. Reminder: It’s moving toward mastery I’m talking about here, not necessarily achieving mastery. How would you know you got there, anyway? And then what would you do for fun?
When you step with an empty foot, you can feel through your foot to the ground below. You can feel stability or the lack of stability. You can feel safety or not-so-safe. If the ground isn’t stable or safe, you can place your foot elsewhere before you commit. The tai chi form when you see it practiced is fluid with no stops. It’s beautiful. Guess how it gets that way? A zillion or so hours of practice. I wonder how many hours I personally have drilled this in practice.
Pick the foot up — did you rock with a weight shift or are you steady, stable, supported?
Put the foot down again.
Pick it up — count to …three-four-five, sinking all the while; okay.
Step empty, then shift your weight.
Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
And repeat some more.
Think about your business. Compare the times you have moved hastily to get something done, or launched, with the times you have slowed down, and taken time with each step of the process. Some examples of empty steps in business might be:
What empty steps have you taken in your business? What heavy off-balance steps? What have you noticed? I’d love to know; please leave a comment.
I want to tell you how amazing this evening was. Even though I was freezing; even though there was thunder, lightning, and rain for two hours during and after set-up; even though it was a long long day; it was amazing!
I went and dug up some graveyard dirt (why yes, I am a witch) and placed it in the bucket with the sign on it at the table. I had paper and markers. I expected that maybe a few people would stop by and, in DotD spirit, write the names of their beloved dead on paper and throw it in the dirt. What I offered was clearly more resonant than I thought it would be — I almost ran out of the slips of paper I brought with me. After a while you couldn’t even see the dirt in the bucket. People were moved, and thanked me, reverently. Some asked what I would do with the names, and I told them I would burn or bury all the paper this week, respectfully — “Your ancestors deserve no less.”
In the lulls as people walked by I thought about whipping out my phone — y’know, play a little Words with Friends, or otherwise entertain myself. Most unusually for me, I never did. I just sat there and held space for the depth and reverence available in this interactive offer — because I felt called to do so. My presence made the connections I had with people (from little kids to older folk) throughout the event deep and hella sacred. I thanked people when I feel so grateful and so blessed! Once or twice I found myself saying “Thanks for playing” in a way that was totally in keeping with the joyful reverence.
If you’re a woman passionate about the work you do, and you’re ready to step out of whatever is holding you back from the magnificent expression of your heart’s vision and soul’s purpose in every aspect of your business, please accept my heartfelt invitation to a complimentary conversation with me:
Discover how you can beautifully integrate your most sacred mission and purpose in every aspect of your business — Unmask Your Brand and Share Your Magic.
In this session, I’ll help you identify exactly what you want your thriving, impactful, successful business to look like a year from now. We’ll look at least three things that are blocking you from envisioning, manifesting and sustaining a business that is a reflection of your passion, mission and purpose. Or… we’ll look at your brand and website and identify what’s blocking your heart’s mission and soul’s purpose from being clearly and invitingly and compellingly communicated. We’ll also identify the most powerful action(s) you can take right now to move you forward in the direction of your dreams.
You will leave the session with a personalized action plan and full of the excitement and energy that comes from knowing what to do next.
I’m giving nine sessions away. Grab your free sesssion here!
I’d love to read your answers to the suggestions and questions in the comments below.
“Great work doesn’t come out of nowhere. It comes out of interactions with the people you seek to change.” — Seth Godin
Try this: For the next 24 hours, set your internal mindfulness meter. When you’re out doing errands, waiting on line at the checkout, driving around town, dealing with interruptions, how are you showing up? What do you notice? What have you done — what can you do — to narrow the gap between the way you show up in your life and the way you show up for your clients and prospects?
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” — Audrey Hepburn
Try this: That thing you’ve been thinking about/dreaming about/trying to do but it seems too big/too hard/too out of reach? Take a step, one more step than you thought you could, in its direction today. What opens for you when you think of this? What opens for you when you try?
“If you’re going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now.” — Marie Osmond
Try this: Whatever that thing is, right now, that you wish you had done differently, the one you’re embarrassed about, share it with a friend, or post it here in the comments, and ask to be helped to see the humor in it. Betcha you’ll be smiling before you’ve finished asking the question. I know I am just thinking about it.
So, love, what inspiration landed for you? Please let me know; write a comment.
Putting the Deep Dive together has been quite a journey for me.
Today I’m thinking a lot about what happens when you actually stop, turn away from the to-do list, and allow the magic that happens when you sink into stillness. Check out the video; in it I lead you in a small 90 seconds of quiet be-ing with yourself just to share the flavor of the shift that can happen when you allow it, when you open to it.
Of course, what you’ll get on the Deep Dive is more than just the quiet, but I wanted to start there with you. Now that I’ve overcome my video shyness (by some miracle), I’ll be sharing more of what I’m learning as I dive deeper and deeper.
It’s subtle. Stay close to the middle with this.
Here are some tips:
Under-promise and over-deliver — in this age of word-of-mouth marketing — is a great credo for solopreneur business women, healers, and changemakers. You give your clients something solid to lean on and lean into, and you maximize your potential to surprise and delight because you gave yourself room to do so at the start. Yay you!
What do you think? Let’s talk in the comments.
The daily activities of your business — serving (and finding!) clients, paying bills, staying healthy — can make it difficult for you remember, and stay connected to the sacred passion and purpose that got you here in the first place.
A retreat sounds like a nice idea, but somehow, the to-do list always gets in the way, doesn’t it? As I prepare the Deep Dive retreat offer I want to share some of the thoughts that are in my heart with you. [Edited to add the link to the Deep Dive page; which I now happily invite you to read!]
“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”
— Napoleon Hill
There’s always something to do, right? You, sister, have the magic power to put yourself at the top of your priority list. When I made myself #1 on my list, everything changed. First I learned how to choose to take care of myself first financially (and move my creditors down the list). Then I learned how to take care of myself and my belongings. And then finally I began to experience what it’s like to take care of my spirit — and to make my being
just as even more important than my doing.
“In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion.”
― Albert Camus
It takes desire and intention to get to what’s really up and to clear the way for the next right action, doesn’t it? I start my grounding and meditation work for clients and groups by saying: “Turn away from your problems, and from the world, and turn toward the Divine, to your source. Let your energy sink down from your busy mind to your heart, and feel your heart open in invitation.” I do the same internal process in my own sacred workings. I want to share what I’ve been taught with you that helps open the channels to ease, peace, and clarity. Hint: First you look at the stuck places, then you release what’s got you stuck. Then you can welcome the vision and commit to the actions.
“You can’t control the past, but you can control where you go next.”
We are called to make so many decisions in our business and in our lives — sometimes it feels endless. When you get quiet, and open yourself in quiet retreat, you can get the clarity you need so you know in which direction you’ll take your next step. And be held in the planning and commitment as you go.
“You don’t choose the day you enter the world and you don’t choose the day you leave. It’s what you do in between that makes all the difference.”
– Anita Septimus
You deserve all the support you need as you manifest your passion and purpose and serve those beautiful clients who need what you have to give. You may have a coach, a mastermind, an accountability support team. And then there’s the support that comes from turning inward and clearing the way to hear that still small voice that speaks through your heart.
The Deep Dive Retreat is all about providing the support you need to rest, rejuvenate, go deep, remember, and restore. A day in guided retreat also opens you to clarity where you may have felt stuck in confusion. Or just plain stuck. And then to release what no longer serves you so you can welcome the vision of what’s next and commit to it.
What would it be like to turn away from the world for a night and a day, and in sacred space, dive deep, review, release, restore, revise, and recommit? What would it take to give yourself this gift? Check out the Deep Dive and see if now is the time for you to give yourself this powerful gift.
Share your experiences, your thoughts. Let’s talk in the comments.