I was working yesterday, and had the whole afternoon blocked off to complete the materials for my new VIP Deep Dive Virtual Retreat (coming soon, I’m so excited!!), and then to write this article. When I stood up to stretch I could feel just how bad my shoulder and neck pain had gotten. Even though it was burning, I had been trying to ignore it for hours. I knew I could have sat down with my back massager and given my aching parts some love. I could have rolled it out. But that truth-telling inner voice, my true essence, had a better idea.
I clearly heard my inner voice reminding me of the Thai massage place I had learned about the week before. I called, they had an opening, and I got my stuff together and headed out.
And sometimes the best way I can do that is to take the radical act of being really kind to myself. Even though I have So.Much.To.Do! Even though I lost so much time to illness over the summer, and am still healing, on many levels. Even though it’s challenging for me to let go of working, of doing, and to relax into being. Sometimes the best teaching I can offer looks a lot like relaxing, slowing down, and letting my true essence be healed, made whole, so it — that beautiful true essence inside me — can shine through in the right way, at the right time, for the right people.
I am sorry I was away from these posts for so long; it took quite a while to get strong enough to begin again. Thanks for your loving patience.
That’s because this big fat Harvest Moon in Pisces — waxing toward Full as I write this — is brightening up the nights already. With any luck, and with clear nights, you should be able to bask in Her glow until the middle of next week.
We’re approaching the Equinox, in just a few weeks. Here in the Bay Area in California, it’s harvest time. As you look around and discern what you’ve been blessed to harvest over this last season, I invite you to take some time under the light of the Moon — go outside if you can — to acknowledge all you’ve received and to invite abundance in the coming season, by spending some time in this exercise: Ground, Center, and Commit.
Have I left anything out? What comes to you when you think about grounding, centering, and commitment? Let me know in the comments.
Each month has its harvest as well — we set our intentions during the Dark Moon, and we acknowledge what we manifested when she’s Full. That gives us double the opportunity this month for gratitude. I’ll jump in, because I have so much gratitude to share!
I invite you, beloved, to share your gratitude with me in the comments.
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To celebrate making it through a colonoscopy and endoscopy yesterday with no more than the expected level of trauma, I thought I’d jump in and participate in the “20 Things You Might Not Know About Me” blog tag started by April from Blacksburg Belle. April began this blog tag experiment to build community among bloggers — so we can connect more and get to know each other better.
The colonoscopy and endoscopy were held at Dignity Hospital (aka St. Mary’s Medical Center) in San Francisco. I’d still like to know how they dare call themselves Dignity while making me wear those socks, and that gown. Dignity? Not so much!
Answer: Even when I’m somewhere I’ve never been before, I am almost never late. I have a built-in talent for knowing just how long it takes to get from here to there.
Answer: People who use overly decorative fonts in their blogs. Beloveds, these fonts with curly bits and excessive thick/thin differentiation are designed to be used sparingly, in headlines; not as your text font!! I’ve taken to using a web developer trick — inspecting an element and changing the text font to something readable if I want to read a story that otherwise might cause too much aggravation and squinting — don’t make me avoid your blog; make it readable! But wait, there’s more!
Usually it’s in the context of physical decluttering — that spiritual review of everything you have that helps you get real about what you keep, and helps you see the opening to release what no longer serves you. Physical decluttering is so healing to do once a season. Like this: Pick up every single thing you own, one room at a time (don’t forget your car, your garage, if you have these), look at it, and ask your true heart:
And if the answer to all three questions is No, release that thing. Give it away, donate it or just throw it away. Create space. Here is one blogpost I’ve written on physical decluttering and here’s one more.
Okay, wait. This will (probably) make sense (if it doesn’t I’m sorry, and thanks for helping me work through this). Let’s look.
You’ll notice that I didn’t say “managing time.” When you make the shift from thinking you can manage time (you probably can manage time as effectively as you can manage, say, the ocean) to managing yourself, you take the first big and powerful step towards living in integrity.
“Our relationship to time is what it is because we lie to ourselves about what we are and what we can do and we hide from ourselves what we are meant to be and what we are meant to serve.”
— Jacob Needleman, Time and the Soul
It means living an accountable life. It means doing what you say you’re going to do, when you say you’re going to do it, and when the unexpected happens (and the unexpected does happen, often) letting those who are affected by the change in your timetable know what’s going on, as quickly as possible. Example: You’re on your way to meet a prospective client, and you get in your car, turn the key, and oops the car doesn’t start. Your first call is to road service, or your mechanic. Your second call? Yup, it’s to your prospect, telling her or him that you are dealing with car trouble and need to reschedule. This is accountability, yo. But wait, there’s more!
I’m a lifelong spiritual student and practitioner. In the last twelve years, since I’ve been working with women as a coach and supporting them in their branding, my commitment to spirituality has deepened in many ways.
Yet, for many of those years, I found myself keeping some of my more arcane sacred practices veiled from my business interactions and offerings. Looking back now, it makes sense… I came from years of corporate graphic design work, and there were few to zero models for authenticity and transparency among my colleagues and clients.
In the last year or so, as I work more and more with my own heart-centered business coach, and study with teachers who live and work with transparency, I have come to realize that it’s time for me to step out from behind the veils. I know that I can best serve my own clients by parting the veils and sharing myself 100% as I am.
“A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.”
— Dalai Lama
Although I am not looking to enroll anyone in any of my spiritual paths or practices, I carried around a fear that some revelations might be too big, too woo-woo for people to take.
I was operating under a belief (that I no longer think is valid) that my business offering and my spiritual path should be separate. No overlap. With walls and moats between, please. This was because I simply didn’t know — hadn’t seen, hadn’t imagined — that there could be a way to bring my open-hearted most loving spirituality into my business in an integrated way.
I thought that my coaching and design clients would resist and misunderstand suggestions to deepen and broaden their connection to spirit. Ummm…. not true!
“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.”
— Mother Teresa (1910–1997); Founder of the Missionaries of Charity
I have always talked about having a big toolbox full of practices. Now I’m upending my own toolbox and sharing with you the spiritual awesome that makes up what I deliver from my heart in my work.
I have experienced some profound changes, and I’m doing everything I can to hold on to them as I slowly return to health.
Overnight, I stopped multi-tasking (I could barely single-task) and I started experiencing mindfulness in an entirely new way. Since my energy was so massively compromised, I had to choose every action with intention. I no longer had the bandwidth to watch TV and play games on my iPad at the same time. I had to plan every trip to the kitchen. When I grabbed some food to eat, I sat down and ate it. No reading, no iPad, no TV.
Priorities had changed. This is a gift. When would I — when would anybody — even think to sit down and review every single habit?
Many of my habits have dropped away or completely changed. I no longer drink strong green tea round the clock. In fact I no longer seem to be dependent upon caffeine. I’m having a cup of green tea today, by choice, not habit. What? One more: I now drive around with my windows open, something I never ever did in the 20 years I’ve lived in California. I have no idea how or why this happened.
Remember, I had just come back from a month’s vacation, and I ended up in the hospital four days after I got home. It had been really difficult for me to take the break. This is the second time in my career that I had taken a long vacation. By the time I got home I was eager to get back to work. And then — oops! — to have to tell my clients that I’m out of commission, and to have it last so long!
I couldn’t have made it without the love and loving (and sometimes stern) admonishments my clients and colleagues kept heaping on me. What a gift to be able to surrender to what is.