The zero point — recalibrate, renew, restart

The New Moon in Sagittarius is at zero degrees

It’s the second zero point New Moon in a series of four — let’s look at this; what can we learn?

New Moon at the zero point — recalibrate, renew, restart

New Moon in Sagittarius

Saturday, November 22nd
0º07′ Sagittarius
4:32 am PST, 7:32 am EST

They say that zero degrees of any sign is a jumping-off place.

Look, I don’t wait for the stars and planets to align to inspire me to recalibrate, renew, or restart, and I don’t advise you to do that either. You get to make those transformative, empowering, and liberating decisions in any moment, in any breath.

Paradoxically (on the surface, anyway), as a woman who lives connected to and respectful of the cycles, of the wheel of the Moon and of the seasons, I take each New and Full Moon as a special and sacred invitation to stop and connect with the energy of the season and the planetary positions and alignments. I consider each Dark Moon a perfect time to intentionally go inside, to go deep, and to do the clearing and releasing work that will let me set achievable intentions for this next lunation (Moon cycle).

Life hands out opportunities to claim sovereignty over how you react to the challenges, surprises, joys, and tragedies that can come at any time. In your business life, too, right? In the face of the unexpected, or the seemingly unendurable, how amazing does it feel when you plant your flag in faith, and take the time to stand in the zero point? They taught me in 12-step recovery that I can start my day over again as often as I need to do so. A zero point New Moon (and this one is the second in a series of four, so we will get to look at this for a while) invites you to take a quiet moment and ask:

  • What do I need to do to restore balance and harmony (recalibrate)?
  • What commitment can I make now (or make again) that will help me reconnect to the joy and inspiration that got me here in the first place (renew)?
  • What small action can I take today to get my stalled project back into action (restart)?

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on November 16th, 2014. Posted in these categories: astrology, New Moon, zero point. 6 Comments

Three reasons not to have a do-it-yourself website

I get asked about this all the time, and everything I’m about to share with you could fall under the heading: “You deserve support!”

And because I know that every one of my clients, and every one of you, is different, none of these bits of advice that are coming in this article are absolutes.

Your website: three reasons not to do-it-yourself

  • Some of you will be able to take on all of the techy stuff with ease, and some of you will be driven to distraction by it, and many of you will land somewhere in the middle. I’m extremely techy, I spend a lot of time studying WordPress and web design and development minutiae, and WordPress and css and html and all the other things involved in creating and launching a website can drive me nuts — often when I’m on a deadline!
  • Some of you are designers, you know your brand inside and out, and you know just how your website should look, and what words you should use so that your website (and all your marketing efforts) will appeal to the heart of your ideal client, so that she or he sticks around, tells others about your awesomeness, and buys your products and services. You’ve got the words, you’ve got your colors and your logo, but that doesn’t mean you automagically know how to make a workable, nimble, and reliable website.
  • Some of you are held back from getting the support you deserve because your business is brand-new, or not yet financially sustainable, and you believe you can’t invest money in this part of your business. I hear this a lot: “I need to make more money before I can hire someone who does what you do.” I am not now, nor would I ever, suggest to anyone that they put themselves in financial straits for their business. At the same time, I know from experience that part of what we get to do as passionate, mission-driven soulpreneurs, is to step out of our comfort zone, and invest funds along with our investment of time and energy. (Another part of this, of course, is to revisit your fees and make sure you’re charging enough, but that’s a topic for another article.)

Three reasons not to have a do-it-yourself website

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on November 8th, 2014. Posted in these categories: branding, Unmask Your Brand, web design. 16 Comments

Everything contains the seed of its apparent opposite

Full Moon in Taurus

Thursday, November 6th
14º26′ Taurus
2:23 pm Pacific
5:23 pm Eastern

Apparent opposites and the Taurus Full Moon

I learned this lesson a long time ago, and I’m revisiting the concept again as we come up to the Taurus Full Moon. After all the drama of the Aries Full Moon Lunar Eclipse which was followed by the intense Scorpio New Moon Solar Eclipse, this apparently ho-hum Full Moon in Taurus might seem rather boring. I’m here to tell you (as a Scorpio fixed-sign woman) that it’s those still times that can bring about major and lasting transformations.

Everything contains the seed of its apparent oppositeThe reason apparent opposition is still such a resonant teaching for me is that it helps me with perspective, with myself and with everyone else.

I have learned that while I may be feeling unsure of myself, what others see is often brash, brave, and confident. I have learned that when I’m anxious, my external affect may look calm. Knowing this about myself helps me see everyone in my life with so much more compassion. When someone reacts with anger, I can see past the anger to the hurt inside. When someone expresses elation, I remember that there might be some sadness underneath, or behind, it.

This week’s Full Moon invites you to lovingly look inside.

What changes are ready to be made? In your business, in your relationships? In your wellness?

Remember, this Moon is bringing the Taurus energy, with its themes of security, stability, possessions, health, and wealth. What’s working? What’s not so much?

Here’s where the apparent opposites come in.

Don’t let the Taurean desire to hold on to everything keep you from embracing change. Remember and embrace the opposites. Holding tight to what is and to what you have can hold you back from stepping into the next unfolding of your highest good. And don’t forget: the Sun’s in Scorpio, Venus is in Scorpio, and Mercury will finally re-enter Scorpio on the 8th after the last retrograde. Embrace change, beloved. So much easier than holding tightly. And as I learned in a 12-step meeting, “When you walk around with your hands clenched shut, you can’t receive the abundance that’s coming your way, that’s meant to enrich your life.”

As one of my favorite teachers, Jen Louden, said in her recent blogpost: “I keep trying to open to the ache of being alive. I mostly fail. I don’t stop trying.”

Start with gratitude.

I find that when I stand in and express my gratitude, I’ve made a good start. Gratitude opens my heart and oh-so-resistant mind to what is, what’s moving, what’s changing, and what’s coming.

  • I am grateful for learning the WordPress keyboard shortcuts. Life is much better now! :-)
  • I am grateful for my birthday tomorrow, and for the dinner party I am having tonight.
  • I am grateful for the smell of the pork shoulder that’s been s-l-o-o-o-o-w-l-y cooking in the oven for the last 18 hours.
  • Ok, I’m also grateful for taste of that roast. At this point, I am hoping there’ll be some left by the time my guests arrive in 3-1/2 hours!
  • I am grateful for a sense of humor around this position I’ve put myself in for the thousandth time, of cooking something I’ve never made before and serving it to guests. Good thing I’m a decent cook. Good thing I ran to the butcher this morning to check out what I was doing. Good thing my friends and family are patient with me! (They’re gonna love it.)
  • I am grateful for my daily walks and for the Map My Walk app I have put on my phone. Now I know how long I walk, and the distance I cover.
  • I am grateful for my improving strength.
  • I am grateful for having doctors in my life with whom I can be completely honest.
  • I am grateful to be learning all the time.
  • I am grateful for my increasing html and css skills. I am rocking making style changes in my website and for others.

I’d love to know how this Full Moon is shining in your heart. How will you enjoy the stillness and invite change? I’d love to hear from you. Please share your insights and your gratitude in a comment.

Posted on November 1st, 2014. Posted in these categories: apparent opposite, Full Moon. 15 Comments

Five spiritual practices that help you be your best self

The Five Yamas

Lessons from the yoga mat

The Yamas are one of the spiritual practices I learned about in yoga. The Yamas, when practiced with intention, add to your groundedness and balance, allowing you to live in peace, good health and harmony with yourself and your world.

5-yamas

I talk about spiritual neuroscience a lot

Spiritual neuroscience teaches how negative behaviors became habits by repetition, which is the good and the not-so-easy-to-take news. The good news: Once you start repeating intentionally positive behaviors, you can actually create new patterns and habits that will eventually replace the old. The other news: It can be so challenging to begin to let go of the behaviors you used to protect yourself early in your life. It can feel so tender and so uncomfortable when you start making these changes. You are not alone. Your heart knows your true essence, trust your heart. Remembering the good news will it easier for you to make each effort willingly — one thought, one word, one action at a time. It will pay off. I’m living proof. (You can read other articles I’ve written about neuroscience here, here, and here.)

I like to look at spiritual practices for transforming consciousness through many different lenses.

I recently learned about the five Yamas (and their sister practices the Niyamas, which I’ll come back to in another post, if you find this one useful), in a yoga class, of course. The Yamas are described as universal, and outer-oriented, in the teachings. But what I really like is applying each principle from the inside out. How am I treating myself? First I look at my relationship to myself, and when that is in balance, then I can apply the same principles to my family, friends, community, clients, colleagues — in ever-expanding ripples, to my world.

Let’s look at these spiritual practices as the gentle and powerful internal shift-makers they can be

  • Ahimsa — compassion, doing no harm. Remember that your own sovereign, sacred, essential self is the same one you honor in the people you love and serve. When you say “Namaste” at the end a yoga class, recognize the internal Divine in yourself first. When a client wants to do forgiveness work, I tell her to begin by first seeing herself at peaceful and content, to visualize herself as healed and forgiven before she extends that same prayer outward.
  • Satya — truthfulness. How do you describe yourself to yourself? How do you talk to yourself? When you are harsh, and judgmental, you are thinking and speaking from fear, resignation, disappointment, and bitterness. Start by changing the way you talk to and about yourself. Cut yourself the same slack you freely give a loved one. Be your own loved one. Try this: imagine putting your arm around yourself with love and compassion. Then speak the real truth, the one that reminds you that you are a child of the Divine.
  • Asteya — non-stealing. More than just about the tangible, we can look even deeper. What old feelings of deprivation and entitlement drive you to be out of balance in your relationship with yourself and with your world? Are you demanding more time from friends, loved ones, and teachers than you really need? Reclaim your balance with gratitude and generosity. Express gratitude, daily, and give of your time, your treasure, and your talents. Stretch yourself: share a little more gratitude and give a little more of what you have than you think you possibly could; that little bit more is a powerful healing.
  • Bramacharya — moderating the senses, lack of excess. What keeps you from standing in your sovereignty? One place to look is at your excesses. Are you living in balance, or are you manifesting addictive behaviors so much that you can’t feel the ground under your feet? Start here: Choose your media wisely: what you read, what you watch. Make intentional choices about what you eat, and about the people in your life. Moderation opens the way to a more mindful and balanced life.
  • Aparigraha — absence of greed. When we enjoy what we have with equanimity, without grasping too tightly, we are manifesting this quality. How is your balance here? Do you take the same care of others’ possessions as you do your own? Do you hold on so tightly that you lose the ability to release what no longer serves you? Are you trying to get others to love you so you can feel better about yourself? If you tend to hold on too tightly, step back and let go a little. If you are afraid to show up and claim what’s yours, take a slightly firmer grip. Find your balance.

So, beautiful, what do you think? How are you folding these spiritual practices into your own life? Let me know in the comments. Blessed be!

Posted on October 25th, 2014. Posted in these categories: neuroscience, spirituality, transformation, Yoga. 12 Comments

What do you choose to remember?

New Moon Solar Eclipse in Scorpio

What is remembered, lives. What do you choose to remember?

New Moon Eclipse. What is remembered, lives.

New Moon Solar Eclipse

Thursday, October 23
0º25′ Scorpio
2:57 pm Pacific
5:57 pm Eastern

We’re entering a sacred time of the year…

…when we honor our ancestors, when the veils between the worlds are thinnest, when we get to make powerful choices

This is a very meaningful time of the year for me, always has been. What kid doesn’t have a special love for her birthday time? My love for this season has seasoned over time. It’s no longer about birthday celebrations, although I love my birth date — my birthday falls on Day of the Dead (November 2nd), a day I just love. In my spiritual tradition, we say that the end of October, Samhain and Scorpio season, is one of the two times in the year when the veils between the worlds thin, making it possible to connect with and honor our ancestors in a deep way.

ancestor altarI keep an ancestors altar, with photos and figurines that represent my beloved dead. I choose to honor those who have gone before me, and everything they taught me, the behaviors they modeled, good and bad. I choose to honor every bit of my Scorpio nature all the time, and with an extra dollop of awareness during this season. Scorpio — transform or don’t. Transform or die.

This week is full of invitation and a reminder to everyone (natal Scorpio or not) to look at the choices you’re making and where there’s still stuckness, to choose to make changes for the better.

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on October 18th, 2014. Posted in these categories: choose to remember, New Moon. 12 Comments

Pssst! Wanna know a few WordPress secrets?

Secrets that are guaranteed to make your life easier and your website more secure?

Welcome to the first in an occasional series about WordPress, blogging, email marketing and other things geeky.

Many of my clients, readers, and colleagues — the Magnolias West tribe — are doing their online businesses and blogs on a WordPress site. And since I’m passionate about all things geeky, I’m going to share some of the awesome WordPress secrets I have learned and continue to learn — there’s a lot to know! I teach this information one-on-one and in Facebook groups all the time; and I’m excited to share what I’ve learned with you. None of the links in today’s post are affiliate links; I’m simply sharing the tools I know about, use and love.

All the solutions I suggest can, beloved, be implemented by you, or by your awesome web-savvy virtual assistant (VA), or [ahem] you could call me; I can help. If you have questions about any of this stuff, let me know in the comments and I’ll do my best to help you understand.

Rock your WordPress

Today we’ll look at secrets in these three areas: backups, updates and how to find out what you need to know

Backups

Servers are unstable (they’re just computers), and just because you’re paying for hosting doesn’t mean your site is protected enough by your host to recover everything if your site crashes. Your site is self-hosted, right? Which means its url is yourawesomebusinessname.com, not wordpress.com/yourawesomebusinessname. (If you haven’t made this change yet to a self-hosted site, please do — you get a lot more functionality, and you have a more professional domain name), and if you need help doing this, please get in touch with me.) Many of us, me included, buy cheap shared web hosting when we’re starting out, and servers can go down. Just like that. Often. So you need to have a backup scheme in place.

Consider this scenario: Your site is on cheapsocheaphost.com and boom! — they go down. For days. How empowered would you feel if you could find a better host (more uptime, managed hosting), and in a matter of a couple of hours have your last backup (less than a week old) to the new host, change the settings so that the interwebs see your new site, and move on! The way you do this is to have a backup plugin that automagically backs up your entire site every week (because you told it to do so), keeps a copy on your web host, and to cover your butt in a most elegant way, makes a copy to another cloud independent of your host (also because you told it to do so) — I send my copy each week to my Dropbox. The two most popular backup plugins these days are Backup Buddy (annual fee, which I use) and Back WP Up (free and fee versions available). Please, get one and set it up.

Updates and compatibility But wait, there’s more!

Posted on October 11th, 2014. Posted in these categories: blogging, business, WordPress. 8 Comments

In the shadow, discover what you are meant to create and manifest

Full Moon Lunar Eclipse

Wednesday, 10/8/14
15º05′ Aries
3:51 am Pacific
6:51 am Eastern

Aries calls us to begin, to create, to manifest our dreams and visions

It’s Eclipse season!

We’re in a month that may bring lots of changes and opening with back-to-back Eclipses — the Full Moon Lunar Eclipse this week and then a New Moon Solar Eclipse in Scorpio on the 23rd.

Aries is the first sign of the astrological year. Aries initiates, which often may feel more like a kick in the pants than a gentle invitation. Either way, or somewhere in between, step into the opening, and ask yourself: What are you being called to begin, to create, to manifest?

Lunar Eclipse in Aries

Spend some time in discernment during this eclipse.

You may be able to see this Eclipse in your area. Even if you can’t see the Eclipse with your eyes, you can make the most of its energy by allowing its shadow to bring out what’s been hiding in the dark recesses of your heart. Set aside some time in the darkness, as close to the Eclipse as possible, and ask:

  • What’s next for me?
  • What am I meant to create?
  • What am I meant to manifest?

In the quiet, in the darkness, you may get surprising answers. Stay open. Stay open. Trust the invitation to begin. And begin, beloved, begin!

What are you being called to create? Share in the comments, let’s be excited together!!

How are you enjoying this episode of Mercury retrograde in Libra and Scorpio?

Libra and Scorpio have lots to do with how we connect with others and express ourselves. Are you noticing that some relationships need extra care, or even that you feel called to back away from some relationships that are no longer working? I’ve just let my long-time web developer go, which was very hard; we’ve worked together for eight years. But I know that I deserve to work with a partner who’s enthusiastic about my vision. My clients deserve for me to have the best team I can. Stand in your truth, speak from your heart, begin and end difficult conversations with loving acknowledgement.

I have also had some of the usual Merc Rx techno-glitches to deal with, and a spate of things just not going as planned.

Gentle reminders to add ease to the Mercury retrograde (ends October 25th):

  • Back up your data. And back up your backups! I run automatic backups of my files, plus I have cloud backup, and a third weekly bootable backup. And that’s just for my hard drive. I have automatic weekly backups for my WordPress website, plus my host backs up the data automatically as well.
  • Do you have a new client? Yay you! Congratulations! Triple-check everything before signing the agreement.
  • Expect things to change. Check traffic, arrival and departure times just one more time.

What else? What do you do to ensure ease and spaciousness during a Mercury retrograde? I’d love to know! Please talk to me in the comments.

Posted on October 4th, 2014. Posted in these categories: creativity, Full Moon. 8 Comments