Dealing with what is — the wisdom that comes from endurance

“When the waves close over me, I dive down to fish for pearls.” — Masha Kaleko

I’m beginning to think that wisdom is the result of finding out what you can endure.

I’ve endured a lot in my life, I’ve grown, I’ve tasted a bit of wisdom and a whole lot of acceptance.

And then this year happened. Talk about endurance.

Critical illness. Hospitalizations. Surrendering to what is, letting go of my business, accepting what I was given. The s-l-o-o-o-o-w recovery. Getting back into life.


I’ve been through some tough stuff before, and I probably will again, right?

And I’ve noticed that the big crises, and the little ones, and all the ones in between, have much in common.

When I can move through each of these tough moments in life, and see them as the healing opportunities they are, I can let go of seeing what’s happening as loss and something to fear, and start seeing each moment as a gift. Yes, it’s possible.

“Sometimes I go around pitying myself while all the time I am carried by the wind across the sky.” — Traditional Ojibwe

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on September 27th, 2014. Posted in these categories: acceptance, endurance, generosity, gratitude, healing, wisdom. 8 Comments

On the balance point — New Moon in Libra

New Moon in Libra

Tuesday, 9/23/14
1º08′ Libra
11:14 pm Pacific
2:14 am Eastern 9/24

First, the turning point

On Monday, Pluto, the planet that opens us to both our most intense creations as well as destructions, the planet that represents our own individual underworlds and inner worlds — as well as those of our collective society — will turn direct in Capricorn. It’s been the case since November of 2013 that Pluto has been hanging about in Capricorn between 10º and 13º, first direct, then retrograde, then direct again. Pluto will finally move out of this station in January of next year. There may be some challenging — if not excruciating — changes and challenges coming at you, especially if you have any cardinal signs — Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn — in your own chart between 10º and 13º.

The balance pointGet balanced. Stay balanced. Find your balance point.

Just a few hours after Pluto turns direct on Monday, the Sun will enter Libra, and we will be in that place of balance, that place of equal darkness and light that comes twice a year — the Equinox. Accept the invitation to stand in the stillness of this moment in the balance point, and if you feel called to do so, spend some time journaling what comes up for you when you look at the questions in the giraffe image.

The Sun in Libra invites you to pause, reconsider, and recalibrate your own inner and outer balance. Look back at the wheel of the year. What did you start six months ago at the last Equinox? What are you harvesting (in the Northern hemisphere) or starting (in the Southern)? What do you need to clear, refine, change in order to start your journey into the next season in balance?

The Libra Dark Moon on Tuesday

This is the first New Moon in Autumn. It’s the first of the ancient New Years that have been celebrated for centuries (the others are Samhain, Yule, and of course our modern calendar New Year). The one connected to the September New Moon is Rosh Hashanah, which falls each year on the day after the New Moon after the Equinox.

A suggested Dark Moon ritual

On the 22nd (if you can, or the day before or after), after dark, set a bowl or a jar outside. Make it a bowl you love, and place some water in it. Place a clean crystal or stone that calls to you in the bowl, if you have one. You’re gonna drink this water, so if you want to keep it as clean as you can, put a cloth over the top of the bowl and secure it with a rubber band.

After the bowl has been charging outside for a day, and absorbing the Dark Moon energy, spend some time in sacred space looking at what you wrote in your journal in response to the questions in the image above. What are the key themes? Write whatever comes to you on a piece of paper and place that paper under the bowl. Let that bowl soak up the darkness for another day or two. On or before Friday the 26th, pour the water into a glass and drink it, bringing your intentions to your center. Ritually dispose of the paper. You can burn it, or tear it up and roll it into seeds and bury them.

What did the questions above bring up for you? What other themes come to you in this Equinox / New Moon week? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

Posted on September 20th, 2014. Posted in these categories: astrology, balance, equinox, New Moon. 12 Comments

Sharing your true essence, in your own true voice

I took my own advice yesterday and got a Thai hot herb massage

I’ll be honest, sometimes I’m harder on myself than I ever suggest my clients and loved ones be on themselves.

I was working yesterday, and had the whole afternoon blocked off to complete the materials for my new VIP Deep Dive Virtual Retreat (coming soon, I’m so excited!!), and then to write this article. When I stood up to stretch I could feel just how bad my shoulder and neck pain had gotten. Even though it was burning, I had been trying to ignore it for hours. I knew I could have sat down with my back massager and given my aching parts some love. I could have rolled it out. But that truth-telling inner voice, my true essence, had a better idea. Thai massage

I clearly heard my inner voice reminding me of the Thai massage place I had learned about the week before. I called, they had an opening, and I got my stuff together and headed out.

I know that my job is to teach what I have learned

And sometimes the best way I can do that is to take the radical act of being really kind to myself. Even though I have So.Much.To.Do! Even though I lost so much time to illness over the summer, and am still healing, on many levels. Even though it’s challenging for me to let go of working, of doing, and to relax into being. Sometimes the best teaching I can offer looks a lot like relaxing, slowing down, and letting my true essence be healed, made whole, so it — that beautiful true essence inside me — can shine through in the right way, at the right time, for the right people.

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on September 13th, 2014. Posted in these categories: blogging, business, find your own voice, true essence. 14 Comments

Gratitude, and more, as the Harvest Moon shines down on us…

Full Moon in Pisces

Monday Sept. 8, 2014 16º19′ Pisces 6:38 pm Pacific 9:38 pm Eastern

It feels so good to come back to Moon posts with you!

I am sorry I was away from these posts for so long; it took quite a while to get strong enough to begin again. Thanks for your loving patience.

Are you noticing, as the days get shorter, that there seems to be more light?

That’s because this big fat Harvest Moon in Pisces — waxing toward Full as I write this — is brightening up the nights already. With any luck, and with clear nights, you should be able to bask in Her glow until the middle of next week.

HarvestMoon2014Let’s take a moment together, in gratitude, as we move into and through this Full Moon window

We’re approaching the Equinox, in just a few weeks. Here in the Bay Area in California, it’s harvest time. As you look around and discern what you’ve been blessed to harvest over this last season, I invite you to take some time under the light of the Moon — go outside if you can — to acknowledge all you’ve received and to invite abundance in the coming season, by spending some time in this exercise: Ground, Center, and Commit.

  • Ground. Feel yourself in your body. Feel your feet on the floor. Take a few full and relaxed breaths. Imagine yourself suspended from above by a silken thread, connecting you to heaven. Feel your feet sending your roots down into Mother Earth. (Those of you have studied martial arts should be familiar with this image and the ones that follow.) Connected above and below. The energy of the heavens moving through you and grounding you into the earth. Take another minute, and feel your feet even more deeply. Where’s your weight? If you can imagine your weight distributed across the four corners of your feet, you should be able to feel very stable, very grounded. What can you bring to your business, to your magnificent life, from this place of groundedness and connection?
  • Center. Put your hands on your belly for a few breaths. Feel your belly expanding on the in-breath and sinking back a bit on the out-breath. Start shifting your weight from foot to foot — slowly — and feel how you can continue to feel grounded even as you move. Take a few slow steps. Try stepping with an empty — unweighted — foot, and then slowly shift your weight into it. Reground, and then take another step. What will you accomplish for your business if you slow down enough to feel centered as you go?
  • Commit. Continue taking slow steps, and as you place your empty foot and then shift weight into it, feel that invitation to full commitment as you shift most of your weight into your forward foot. I am here. I am standing here. I claim sovereignty over this stance. And then take another slow and committed step. What will you bring to your business, to those you are meant to serve, if you are fully committed to each step you take?

Have I left anything out? What comes to you when you think about grounding, centering, and commitment? Let me know in the comments.

Each month’s Full Moon invites you to acknowledge and express gratitude for what you have been given, what you have learned…

Each month has its harvest as well — we set our intentions during the Dark Moon, and we acknowledge what we manifested when she’s Full. That gives us double the opportunity this month for gratitude. I’ll jump in, because I have so much gratitude to share!

  • I am grateful to be strong enough, recovered enough, to come back to the Moon posts here in my blog. I’ve missed them.
  • I am grateful to have learned so much about how I am in relationship to my work and my health, and that I’ve been willing to put more rest and more healing practices into place.
  • [Here’s one that has been a real lesson for me:] I am grateful I got so sick. I learned so much. About control — there was so much control I had to release in order to survive my health crisis. About priorities: I actually blogged from my hospital bed, and was going to continue to do that, until a cherished friend gave me a virtual loving dope slap, reminding me that my job was to survive!
  • I am grateful for the love and support of my tribe: my clients, my readers, my colleagues.
  • I am grateful for the people in my life who made sure I had food — and ate it even when I had no appetite; who washed my clothes; who did my shopping; and visited with me. Blessed!

I invite you, beloved, to share your gratitude with me in the comments. 

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Posted on September 5th, 2014. Posted in these categories: astrology, Full Moon, gratitude. 8 Comments

20 things you might not know about me [blog tag]

Having a little fun with blogging today — join in!

To celebrate making it through a colonoscopy and endoscopy yesterday with no more than the expected level of trauma, I thought I’d jump in and participate in the “20 Things You Might Not Know About Me” blog tag started by April from Blacksburg Belle. April began this blog tag experiment to build community among bloggers — so we can connect more and get to know each other better.

Before I dive in to my 20 things, let me explain about the photo.

The colonoscopy and endoscopy were held at Dignity Hospital (aka St. Mary’s Medical Center) in San Francisco. I’d still like to know how they dare call themselves Dignity while making me wear those socks, and that gown. Dignity? Not so much!

Okay, let’s do this! — The 20 things you might not know about me

Question 1: How tall are you?

Answer: Five-four–ish.

Question 2: Do you have a hidden talent? If so, what?

Answer: Even when I’m somewhere I’ve never been before, I am almost never late. I have a built-in talent for knowing just how long it takes to get from here to there.

Question 3: What’s your biggest blog-related pet peeve?

Answer: People who use overly decorative fonts in their blogs. Beloveds, these fonts with curly bits and excessive thick/thin differentiation are designed to be used sparingly, in headlines; not as your text font!! I’ve taken to using a web developer trick — inspecting an element and changing the text font to something readable if I want to read a story that otherwise might cause too much aggravation and squinting — don’t make me avoid your blog; make it readable! But wait, there’s more!

Posted on August 29th, 2014. Posted in these categories: blogging, fun. 6 Comments

Declutter your brand

I talk about decluttering a lot, and teach it to my coaching clients

Usually it’s in the context of physical decluttering — that spiritual review of everything you have that helps you get real about what you keep, and helps you see the opening to release what no longer serves you. Physical decluttering is so healing to do once a season. Like this: Pick up every single thing you own, one room at a time (don’t forget your car, your garage, if you have these), look at it, and ask your true heart:

  • Is this something I use now?
  • Will I use it in the next three months?
  • Is it something I cherish?

And if the answer to all three questions is No, release that thing. Give it away, donate it or just throw it away. Create space. Here is one blogpost I’ve written on physical decluttering and here’s one more.

decluttered brandingToday I’m thinking about decluttering in a whole ‘nother way — decluttering your brand

Okay, wait. This will (probably) make sense (if it doesn’t I’m sorry, and thanks for helping me work through this). Let’s look.

What is your brand?

  • Your brand is how your message is received — what people think and feel when they think about you and your business
  • Your brand is how you align your actions with your values, and how you show up for your commitments
  • Your brand is who you are and how that informs everything you do in your business and your career

Are you thinking: “Okay I get it. But why and how would I declutter my brand?”

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on August 15th, 2014. Posted in these categories: branding, decluttering, personal branding. 20 Comments

Accountability is a path to freedom

First you have to practice, and practice some more

Accountability is a path to freedom

The best way for me to share what I’ve learned about accountability is to look at it with you in the context of managing your energy as it relates to time.

You’ll notice that I didn’t say “managing time.” When you make the shift from thinking you can manage time (you probably can manage time as effectively as you can manage, say, the ocean) to managing yourself, you take the first big and powerful step towards living in integrity.

“Our relationship to time is what it is because we lie to ourselves about what we are and what we can do and we hide from ourselves what we are meant to be and what we are meant to serve.”
— Jacob Needleman, Time and the Soul

I could write for days about what living in integrity means.

It means living an accountable life. It means doing what you say you’re going to do, when you say you’re going to do it, and when the unexpected happens (and the unexpected does happen, often) letting those who are affected by the change in your timetable know what’s going on, as quickly as possible. Example: You’re on your way to meet a prospective client, and you get in your car, turn the key, and oops the car doesn’t start. Your first call is to road service, or your mechanic. Your second call? Yup, it’s to your prospect, telling her or him that you are dealing with car trouble and need to reschedule. This is accountability, yo. But wait, there’s more!

Posted on July 30th, 2014. Posted in these categories: accountability, freedom. 16 Comments