How to be gentle with self love even when it’s challenging

I’m off on a holiday retreat, a sacred month-long journey, and a writing break.

Propelled and inspired by the energy of the recent Cardinal Grand Cross and eclipse season, I am taking the crazy audacious step of an entire month away from work. I know I will be coming back spiritually recharged and ready for inspired action. Are you interested in getting help with your business, with defining and manifesting your passion, mission and purpose in everything you do? Are you feeling called to find out more about Astrology for Your Business? Send me an email, or fill out the form on the Share Your Magic page here on the website, and I will get back to you the last week in May.

By the magic of technology, I get to schedule these guest posts for you, one each week that I’m gone. Enjoy!

This is a guest post, by my friend Caroline Kirk. I am always inspired by and grateful for her wisdom. (Another overseas writer; I’ve left her spelling and punctuation untouched.)

 

selfloveDon’t allow all you’ve learned to become yet another stick to beat yourself with during times when it’s challenging to put those lessons in action.

I’ve been lost for a while. From loving what I was doing, what I was building, the connections I was making with amazing women all over the world, I suddenly, or so it seemed,  lost belief in myself, in all I was creating. 

who am I to be writing about spirituality, self love and owning our purpose when I am yet again back in a place of limited self belief, of fears & doubts? Who am I?

You’d think that after decades of learning about Divine connection, universal energy, how thoughts create our experiences and how we get to choose how we feel in each moment I’d know how to shut off that voice, to snap out of the feelings of doubt and despair when I start sinking into the old patterns of thinking and lose sight of the passion I feel about life, about writing, about making a difference in the lives of us women, about creating a business I love and believe in.

You’d think!

The thoughts circled….

  • I should know better.
  • I should just make an internal switch.
  • I shouldn’t be back here yet again.
  • I should just give up on all this because I’ll never ‘get there’.
  • I should have it all sussed out by now.
  • I shouldn’t be saying ‘I should’

I was drowning in a sea of should and shouldn’ts.

I realized I was using all that I had learned previously, all the wisdom I’d been blessed to encounter as an added stick to beat myself with. 

Each day I’d set goals and each evening I’d feel  a failure as yet again, nothing was achieved.  I stopped setting the goals as I couldn’t bear adding insult to injury.

Underneath all this ego-fuelled turmoil ,I became aware of my inner knowing……my silent observer of all that is…..the part  of me that has an unyielding acceptance of life, as it is in any moment, all unfolding perfectly.

Whispering without words… Accept. Embrace. Trust. Let it pass.

It was the lifeline I needed, no amount of striving was inspiring positive change.

I decided to

  • accept this is how I feel; to stop forcing myself to feel different
  • accept I don’t have to do anything
  • trust ‘this too shall pass’
  • honour myself in the process; to believe there was something deeper at work here
  • Let go of the guilt that surrounded my current need to opt out of life as I knew it for a while.
  • love myself regardless during this period of diminished creativity, of diminished motivation, of diminished self belief
  •  trust in Divine timing and know even if I never returned to writing or building my business, that all is still well
  • give gratitude for all the life blessings I hadn’t been acknowledging while stuck in this negative cycle

Yes, this too shall pass and I love myself regardless of my perceived faults & failings.

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”  Eckhart Tolle

Quite quickly after that, I realised I was beginning to feel better. I picked up a spiritual book again, I replied to some emails. I accepted an invitation to get out and about.  I began to read the wise words from the many wonderful women I’ve come to know since I began this journey into writing & teaching about us amazing feminine creatures J, of self empowerment, spirituality and self love.

I began to feel like me again. Connected to Divine Source.  Perfectly Imperfect.

I received an email from Sue reminding me of our agreement to swop blog posts.  It was the push from the Universe that I needed.  It felt daunting, it brought up the fears again but it was ok. I was ok. I can do this. (Thanks Sue xo)

We will sometimes lose our way. We will sometimes not feel as positive as we once did. We will have periods of self doubt and fears will arise. We will feel despair.

Over and over. Such is the ebb and flow of life.

The key is not to beat ourselves up for these natural aspects of living, of building a business, of putting ourselves out there, of being a woman, of being human.

The key to getting through these times of uncertainty and despair is acceptance; of self, of life.

Acceptance that life is always unfolding exactly as we need it to and we are always doing the very best we can in each moment. Even when it doesn’t feel as if we are. Especially when we feel we’re not.

Acceptance that sometimes we will feel on top of the world and at others as if that same world is crushing our very existence.  And that “this too shall pass”

Acceptance that no matter what we decide or don’t, we are worthy of love, including and most especially, our own.

It is this love that will see us through life’s storms; that will move our perceived mountains and carry us on the winds of change to the new us… more weathered, more wise, more in touch with who we are.

Pure Love.

Perfectly Imperfect.

Here to experience all the dips and highs of the rollercoaster that is Life.

You can download my two free eBooks here if it resonates; “Self Love Rocks” & “Lessons in Self Love” A collaboration of women’s stories around the world who are changing their world by finding their worth.  With love from me to you. Namaste.

How do you gently love yourself through the storms? Please leave a comment and let me know how it is for you.

 

headshotI’m Caroline Kirk, and I guide women towards self love, soul connection & freedom, to happy & healthy harmony of mind, body & spirit, which I believe provides a platform for deep inner growth, positive authentic living & the courage to pursue our greatest passions and way of being.

Life Coach, Lifestyle & Weight Management Consultant, NLP & Reiki Practioner, Personal Trainer, Personal Development Trainer.

Happiness, Freedom & Self Acceptance are innately yours, let’s rediscover it.  

You can find me on my blog or on Facebook, Twitter & Pinterest.

I invite you to join me and amazing women in a private Facebook group, women supporting women on our journey to self love.

Posted on May 18th, 2014. Posted in these categories: guest post, self-love. 18 Comments

Three ways to find your own voice

I’m off on a holiday retreat, a sacred month-long journey, and a writing break.

Propelled and inspired by the energy of the Cardinal Grand Cross and eclipse season, I am taking the crazy audacious step of an entire month away from work. I know I will be coming back spiritually recharged and ready for inspired action. Are you interested in getting help with your business, with defining and manifesting your passion, mission and purpose in everything you do? Are you feeling called to find out more about Astrology for Your Business? Send me an email, or fill out the form on the Share Your Magic page here on the website, and I will get back to you the last week in May.

By the magic of technology, I get to schedule these guest posts for you, one each week that I’m gone. Enjoy!

This is a guest post, by my friend and website client Ann Brown. Her website is beautiful (I do say so myself!) and shows her beautiful heart. She lives in England, and she brings so much heart and tenderness to everything she says and writes; you’re in for a treat. (I’ve left her spelling and punctuation untouched.)

 

singer-own-voiceOwn your own voice

As an introvert, I’m more comfortable writing things down than speaking ‘live’ to a group of people. Yet until 2 years ago, I was terrified of offering my opinion even in writing. I would freeze and be unable to even gather my thoughts, let alone write them down for others to see.

What made the difference?

For me, it was finding an online forum where I felt safe and could practice adding my thoughts, and where I trusted that people would respect what I had to say.

I learned that what I have to say is actually valuable to others and
that my ‘take’ on something is worth expressing because other people might not have thought of it.

I’m not comfortable being the centre of attention. Yet, because I want to get my message across and help the women I’m here to serve, I know I have to find a way to make my voice heard in a way that fits who I am.

Do you sometimes feel stuck with what to say or write when it comes to expressing yourself?

With social media statuses swirling all around us, and marketing messages getting ever louder to grapple for our attention, is it any wonder that we sometimes struggle to find our voice?

The vital thing to remember is the world needs you exactly as you are. Your words, your message, and your essence are deeply valuable and much needed in the world.

How can you begin to find your own voice?

Stop comparing yourself to other people

How many times have you heard someone speak, or read something, and made a snap judgement about them compared to you?

“Oh I could never speak as well as them….”

“They’ve got it all worked out and I haven’t ….”

I’ve done that. (And I still do sometimes … I’m human.)

But the important thing is to catch it when it happens. Remind yourself that you know nothing about their life, what goes on behind the scenes, or how many years of repeated mistakes and failures they went through to get where they are.

Because each time you compare yourself to others, the ‘real you’ shrinks back a little further,  undermining your real voice, and making it harder to speak up.

Consciously choose to be on your own path instead. Move one foot in front of the other, knowing you’ll get where you’re going in your own way, because that’s the only way you CAN get there!

It’s OK NOT to have an opinion

I used to cringe and shy away when people started talking about politics or the economy. I would worry that there was something seriously wrong with me that I couldn’t speak eloquently on these topics. And I would wonder,  am I somehow backward ? Is there an essential part of my brain missing, that I cannot have an intelligent conversation about certain things?

Err, no.

I’ve now come to realise that there are certain topics (politics and the economy being two of them) that I just don’t have an opinion about. Is it that those topics just don’t interest me ? Perhaps (because that’s certainly true).

I’ve given up sweating that I’m not ‘in the race’ and not able to debate the pros and cons and ins and outs, or even give my opinion.

I’m becoming more comfortable with saying “I don’t have an opinion on that”.

You too can choose to quit the worry about certain subjects and decide that you just don’t care to discuss certain things.

And that’s that.

That leaves you more open to finding the things that DO interest you and that you would really love to discover your opinion about.

Listen to yourself.

In the bath, in the shower, when you’re driving, walking, cooking, whatever you’re doing, I’ll bet my dog’s dinner that you’re talking to yourself and giving your opinions quite freely.

You know deep down what interests you, what you think and feel about things and what your heart wants to share with the world. I wrote another post on this topic last year.

It’s important to catch those words before they’re swept away with all the other stuff that passes through your mind.

Try writing your thoughts and feelings out first thing in the morning (in the form of Morning Pages, coined by Julia Cameron). It will help bring your true feelings to the surface. Morning Pages can help you realise what you think about something and get comfortable expressing it without have to share it publicly.

Whichever way you do it, keep trying different things and keep doing it. Listening to yourself is a lifelong habit that will really help you to align with your highest purpose.

Among all the noise in the world today, it’s important for you to find your voice because your words, your message and your essence are deeply valuable and much needed.

When you begin to find your voice, you’ll be more comfortable with what you say and write, and your words will flow more freely, giving you a way to get your important message out in the world!

I’d love to hear from you, please share in the comments — what helps you to connect with your voice?

 

headshot Ann Brown wants to live in a world where women feel confident expressing their unique selves, and are able to live their lives full of purpose and meaning. As an intuitive coach and NLP practitioner, she’s appeared on the Heart of Business blog.

When she’s not helping women recognize their needs and get them met, you can find her walking her dog in the forest, baking (and eating) double chocolate muffins, and watching the clouds float by in her hammock.
Her latest program — Express Your Real Self — is waiting to help you do just that! Learn how to re-connect with the deepest parts of yourself on her Happy Being You website.

Image credit: https://www.flickr.com/photos/haagsuitburo/
Posted on May 11th, 2014. Posted in these categories: find your own voice, guest post. 4 Comments

One small step for today, one giant leap into the rest of your life!

I’m off on a holiday retreat, a sacred month-long journey, and a writing break.

Propelled and inspired by the energy of the Cardinal Grand Cross and eclipse season, I am taking the crazy audacious step of an entire month away from work. I know I will be coming back spiritually recharged and ready for inspired action. Are you interested in getting help with your business, with defining and manifesting your passion, mission and purpose in everything you do? Are you feeling called to find out more about Astrology for Your Business? Send me an email, or fill out the form on the Share Your Magic page here on the website, and I will get back to you the last week in May.

By the magic of technology, I get to schedule these guest posts for you, one each week that I’m gone. Enjoy!

This is a guest post, by the beautiful Shân Watts. She lives in Australia, and I just love her work. She inspires and challenges me to be my very best self in her writings. She’s about to launch her eMagazine in May. Check out her website and blog here for more of her goodness! Oh, and she spells and punctuates as if she’s a product of British education (which I’ve left untouched).

 

Decluttering

We’ve all heard it said, time and time before that in order to lead your best life, you need to declutter — physically, spiritually and emotionally. If you’re anything like me, you read that stuff and nod your head in agreement.

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You know deep in your gut that this is truth and that you’d feel soooo much freer and you’d create soooo much more space in your life for good stuff to come in if you actually did it, but the truth is you’re overwhelmed by it all. You have no idea where to start!

I know exactly where you’re coming from. I think I’ve only ever really decluttered once in my life and that was when my daughter and I went on our epic adventure. In order to be able to travel, I had to sell my house and get rid of the majority of our possessions. Decluttering was unavoidable. When we finally settled down again we had a camp table, an esky and a couple of sleeping bags in a two bedroom flat. It didn’t take long for our stuff to accumulate again.

Twenty-one years later I still have a few boxes that I’ve carted from one State to another and at least six residences. I don’t even know what’s in them any more. After much reflection though, I know why I haven’t been ready to let them go, until now.

They represent one of the happiest, carefree times in my life. A time when I was surrounded by friends, I was in a loving relationship and had more than enough money to meet my needs. An intensely spiritual time when I was exploring my belief system and working out what my truth. It’s not surprising that I haven’t wanted to let go of the memories those boxes represent. 

The thing is, though, that regardless of whether the boxes are there or not, I still have the memories. By holding on to physical reminders, I’ve prevented other good stuff from flowing to me easily. These boxes cluttering up my life didn’t just take up space. They drained me of energy to do even the smallest things. They drained me of the energy it took to keep the rest of my space uncluttered. They drained me of my desire to keep the rest of my house physically and mentally in order. 

They drained me of my desire to beautify my space and work in a comfortable, creative environment and were actually a reflection of the way I felt about myself. Cluttered, scattered, disorganised. Full of dreams but unable to start because I literally couldn’t see my way forward because of all my emotional and physical clutter.

I’m a massive advocate of one small step at a time. My words for 2014 are ‘prosperity, self-love and fun’. I love gardening but hadn’t done any for so long because I kept telling myself I needed to declutter first before I could do anything I enjoyed. I’ve spent the past year or so cooped up in my house because I felt I had to get my business established first before I could go out and have fun, which is an essential component of self-care.

What right did I have to go out and have fun or pursue activities that fulfil my soul if I had clutter that I needed to be rid of?

This year, however, has been different. With my commitment to self-love, I’ve sworn to be gentler and easier on myself. I’ve also sworn to ensure I feel freer and less encumbered than at any time in the past. This year is the year I’ve begun working holistically towards my ideal life. As is my way, I’m doing it one step at a time.

This is what one step at a time looks like for me on a daily basis during the week:

  • Wake up and exercise for half an hour
  • Spend 20–30 minutes in the garden
  • Have breakfast while checking email (yes, I know that’s not ideal but I can’t be an angel all the time and the geek part of me justifies it as fun)
  • Divide my day into hourly segments. For each hour I spend working, I spend 15 minutes decluttering. It gets me out of my chair, moving around and creates waves of noticeable change which is incredibly satisfying.
  • Break around 5.30/6.00 to prepare dinner and take my daughter to work
  • Self-development in the form of study and focusing on tapping to create a more abundant mindset
  • Pick my daughter up from work and eat dinner together
  • Relax until bedtime when I do chakra work before falling asleep

In this way I’m working on self-love, decluttering, prosperity and fun every day. My day is full of variety and makes me feel nurtured and happy. 

On Wednesday nights I attend a Taiko drumming class which keeps me incredibly grounded and satisfies my yearning for rituals apart from the ones I create myself. When I need a change of scenery I take myself out to a local coffee shop or down to the river to work. When I feel the need to socialise I contact girlfriends to catch up with them after work, ring my mother or other friends I know who won’t be at work.

drumI no longer need the clutter of physical reminders around me to make me feel loved. I’m doing that for myself and it feels amazing. 

I’m wondering as a result, what is it that you need to let go of in your life that’s holding you back?

What represents clutter to you?

How can you get rid of it, one small step at a time?

It doesn’t matter how long it takes, what matters is that you start. Go on — make a start today! It will be one small step for today and one giant leap into the rest of your life!

I promise you, it will be worth every second.

What’s cluttering your life? How can you add more clear space? I’d love to know, please leave a comment!

 

shanheadshotShân wants just one thing in this world — to expand love throughout the Universe by empowering women, creative people and small business owners to manifest the lifestyle their spirit yearns for and empower others as a result. A heart-centred, gifted coach and mentor, she’s setting an example by creating her own ideal life on the beautiful far south coast of New South Wales, Australia. You can find her hanging out on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Google+ as well as on her blog.

Posted on May 4th, 2014. Posted in these categories: decluttering, guest post. 8 Comments

What you can learn about the New Moon

I’m off on a holiday retreat, a sacred month-long journey, and a writing break.

Propelled and inspired by the energy of the Cardinal Grand Cross and eclipse season, I am taking the crazy audacious step of an entire month away from work. I know I will be coming back spiritually recharged and ready for inspired action. Are you interested in getting help with your business, with defining and manifesting your passion, mission and purpose in everything you do? Are you feeling called to find out more about Astrology for Your Business? Send me an email, or fill out the form on the Share Your Magic page here on the website, and I will get back to you the last week in May.

By the magic of technology, I get to schedule these guest posts for you, one each week that I’m gone. Enjoy!

This is a guest post, by the amazing Sibylle Leon. She lives in Ireland, and I am always inspired by her heart and passion. (I’ve left her spelling and punctuation untouched.)

 

The pull of the New Moon

Water and clouds at the New MoonIn recent years, more and more people are becoming aware of the influence the moon has on us. Women, in particular, are waking up to its gentle pull. It’s no wonder: The moon is so powerful, it creates the tides of the earth’s oceans, and considering we mostly consist of water, its influence is undeniable. It is said that women who sleep exposed to the moonlight, will experience an adjustment of the menstruation cycle, with the bleeding happening on or around the New Moon and ovulation around the Full Moon.

As a long-time practising pagan, being aware of the moon phases and aligning myself with their energy has become second nature to me. My personal pagan path has its rituals and celebrations, but most of all it is an attitude towards all life, an awareness of us humans’ unity with everything there is, and of the energy connecting us all. It’s something I live every day, and its influence can be felt in all areas of my life, including my work as a Coach.

What does it mean to live with the cycles of the moon?

New Moon Solar Eclipse in Taurus

Monday 4/28/14
8º52′ Taurus
11:14 pm Pacific
2:14 am Eastern on 4/29

It means to align what we are doing, to the energy of each of the moon’s phases. Many pagans, including Wiccans, celebrate three moon esbats: the Waxing, Full, and Waning Moon. Few, however, give any special attention to the New Moon, and I think that’s a shame. There is so much we can learn from the New Moon, especially in our typically hectic and busy everyday lives.

Apparently, people find it easier to relate to the gain and growth of the Waxing Moon, the joy and abundance of the Full Moon, and the cleansing and letting go of the Waning Moon. But once every month, there are a few days where the busy ebbing and flowing of energy comes to a seeming standstill, a pause to catch one’s breath. It’s not something many of us learn when we grow up: Being still, BEing instead of DOing for once. Many people today have trouble becoming still; they feel as if something is wrong if they’re not constantly in motion.

When we look at nature, we realise that there are regular periods of standstill as part of nature’s cycles: there is stagnation in winter before new growth begins, and the stillness of death before new life. It’s good and right that way, part of the whole. Just like the rest of nature, we aren’t meant to be constantly active either. We need breaks so we don’t lose ourselves. We become stronger for standing still and recharge our batteries. The New Moon is a perfect time for practising self-care and remembering what’s really important to us. Leave the planning, and the planting of new seeds, ideas, and projects to the Waning Moon; for now, it’s time to BE.

Self-care can take on so many forms. Some of us like to treat ourselves with massages or facials and that’s wonderful, but honestly, self-care needn’t cost you money. A scented bath in candlelight can be just as nourishing, or an hour away from your loved ones, in your own private corner with a good book and a glass of red wine. A walk in nature can completely replenish your soul, listening to the wind and the trees and breathing in the fresh air. At times, you may simply sit and meditate. Just ask your Self what it needs most at this moment, and then do whatever you come up with. This is your time.

The moon’s face is veiled — note that it’s not gone, just hidden from sight. The night is darkest during the New Moon phase, but it’s also the time when even the faintest of stars become visible in the sky. In the same way, insights of the soul become apparent and accessible to us, if we only pay attention. New Moon meditations have led to some of the deepest and most profound insights of my life. It’s worth being still enough to hear your soul’s prompts.

No, you aren’t “wasting” time here. You are doing valuable maintenance work. It’s what enables you to be fully present when the sickle moon returns and all energy is set to moving outward, into creation, gain, and growth once again.

How do you feel the pull of the New Moon? I invite you to leave a comment and let me know. Blessed be!

 

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Sibylle is a trained and experienced Life and Business Coach. Based in Ireland, Sibylle helps clients all over the world to create joy and abundance in all areas of their lives. You can find Sibylle at her Coaching website or on her personal website.

Posted on April 27th, 2014. Posted in these categories: astrology, guest post, New Moon. 9 Comments

Taking a break — with sacred intention

spiritualjourneyI’m going on a month-long break, and I’m setting my intentions for the trip

For the second time in my life I’m taking a month off.

Road trip! (Just writing it this way makes me smile. And smiling is good, because I’ve been really nervous about this trip the last few days.)

Taking a month off from my business — taking any time at all besides a few days — has always been very challenging. It’s easier this time than it was in 2010, when I went to Europe for the first time. Easier, by a little bit. My clients have been very encouraging and supportive; when I was doubting that I could let go of projects and of my practice it was my beloved clients who encouraged me to do this! So grateful for each of you!

I’m actually taking a break from writing!

I was worried about stopping my weekly flow of posts, but now I’ve really embraced this opportunity to unplug from routine and recharge — allowing an opening to absorb new experiences, information and images.

I have some guest posts coming for you, from some wonderful writers, which I will get set up and scheduled before I leave. There should be one each week, if all goes as planned. I will schedule a couple of newsletters to go out with links to the guest posts for you.

I will be back to my regular posting schedule by the end of May, writing about the Gemini New Moon.

I will be out exploring.

I am going to visit some of California’s abundant beautiful spots, many of which will be new to me. I’m going to Big Sur, Santa Barbara, Joshua Tree (the desert) — to a women’s Vipassana meditation retreat, Kernville (Sequoia National Park), Mammoth Mountain (Death Valley, lodgepole pines — oldest trees in the world), South Lake Tahoe, and Sonora (Yosemite).

Different wonders. Different climates. Different eco-systems.

But wait, there’s more!

Posted on April 21st, 2014. Posted in these categories: transformation, transparency, wordless Wednesdays, writing. 27 Comments

The astrology of the audacious — are you open to the surprising and unexpected?

surprising and unexpected

This month’s astrology is going to bring the unexpected in many forms — all you need to do is be open

I think the shakeup has been happening for weeks already, don’t you?

Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Libra

Tuesday 4/15/14
25º15′ Libra
12:42 am Pacific
3:42 am Eastern

Cardinal Grand Cross

Pluto opposite Jupiter
Mars opposite Uranus
all square to each other at 13º on April 23–24

New Moon Solar Eclipse in Taurus

Monday 4/28/14
8º52′ Taurus
11:14 pm Pacific
2:14 am Eastern on 4/29

I know it has for me. Sometime in early March it suddenly seemed possible, do-able (talk about surprising!), and right to take a month off in sacred retreat. I leave on April 25th, the day after the peak of the Grand Cross, and I will return at the end of May.

If I’m any example, the energies of shakeup and surprise have been present for a while now. Otherwise I wouldn’t have been open to the idea of a healing road trip and a full month away from my business. I’ll be packing my car full of what heals and nourishes and restores me and traveling to Big Sur, Santa Barbara, Joshua Tree (the desert), Kernville (Sequoia National Forest), Mammoth Mountain (Death Valley, Kings Canyon), South Lake Tahoe, and Sonora (Yosemite). Big trees. Canyons. Ancient lodgepole pines. Desert. Five days at a women’s Buddhist retreat.

This is the second time in my life since I was in school that I am taking a full month off.

I traveled to Ireland, England and France in 2010, my first and so far only trip across the Atlantic. Amazing. Sacred. Healing. I visited many sacred and ancient places. I pulled some pictures of my favorites: the Black Abbey, Avebury, Newgrange, Stonehenge, and the ocher hills in the Luberon in Provence (in the order they’re in in the photo strip).

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It was excruciating in 2010, to open the door to leaving my business and my clients for that long. I don’t know about you, but since I’ve been in business for myself my vacations have been occasional three- and four-day outings, with an occasional full week. Each break was difficult for me at first, I am so much more comfortable with routine duty and obligation than I am with treating myself like a queen who of course needs, deserves and must have balance, restoration and just plain fabulousity in her life! So I’m setting aside what’s comfortable and inviting the surprising.

I’ve learned so much about this. Not only it is really important for me to take a healing break for me, it’s also so important for my clients to see me do this… this allows them — and you! — to drink in the idea that self-love and self-care can include audacious and surprising moves just like this one. My clients inspire me! I have a client who walked the Camino in Spain last year… she planted a big juicy seed in me when she took nearly two months off to nurture herself in such an amazing way.

This time, for my 2014 month away — perhaps because I’ve done it once before, and perhaps because of this amazing astrological energy of change that’s brewing — I’m finding that it’s a bit easier. I decided to stay close to home and keep expenses down (this month off should cost less than half of my Europe journey), and this Eclipse — Grand Cross — Eclipse energy seems to be shining ease and a thrum of excitement to my planning.

One more astro note — take this with you as you do your Full Moon ritual

This next couple of weeks may cause a lot to shift. What felt stable and predictable may change, may even dissolve, and something surprising may appear on the horizon. Spend some time under the light of the Full Moon pondering the rest of 2014. What’s coming? What will unfold for you? Roll with it, beautiful one. Allow. Don’t try to rush the changes, and don’t resist them either.

Logistics: I will have one more blogpost for you in my normal schedule next weekend. I will have some guest posts go up when I’m gone. I may pop in and blog photos if I have any that I love, but I’m taking a writing break until the end of May.

What is brewing in you? Don’t brush away the surprising and unexpected — and audacious! — ideas that come to you during this time. Hear them, express them, live them! I’d love to hear from you in the comments… talk to me, beloved!

 
Posted on April 12th, 2014. Posted in these categories: astrology, Full Moon, journey, New Moon. 24 Comments

Your niche, your road — own what makes you unique

YourRoadI went to a tantra and breathwork workshop yesterday

And was told I wasn’t doing it right

Seriously. 

I know the facilitator had nothing but my healing in mind when she told me to go deeper, and to reach for more. I’m not sure exactly what she had in mind a little later when she suggested that because I wasn’t having a deep and profound experience I was perhaps disassociating. 

Seriously?

I know from my own experience as a student of transformational technologies, and as a teacher, that not everyone has the same capacity — in any given moment — for a breakthrough. That everyone has her own pace, her own journey, and follows her own unique path. Which is often not linear nor predictable — a spiral that bends back upon itself and then goes forward and then bends again…. I also believe that techniques are not cookie cutters — not everyone is a good fit for everything.

In my own private practice, I find that every client is unique and that what tools and techniques work for one may not work for another, or maybe not in the same order, or maybe it will take longer for one to get the benefit than for another. Even in my group trainings, with a set curriculum, I make space for lots of individualization, as needed, because my clients are beautiful, quirky, unique individuals.

Stand for yourself as the beautiful unique individual you are

Whether you’re learning something, or teaching something, being a participant in a workshop, or leading your own class, be yourself. Your beautiful, human, self. As you are. The more you can do this, the more you can find, claim and rock your niche!

This workshop I attended offered me a powerful opportunity to realize and take ownership of something very useful…What you have, who you are, these are your unique gifts. Everything you have survived and transformed becomes the gifts you can offer to the people you serve.

There are many reasons to claim your niche for your business

  • On your journey, as you heal each and every single thing that has brought you to be the beautiful woman you are today — every wound, every trauma, every joy, every regret, every loss — those things begin to change and become transformed into your own unique gifts — into exactly what it is you are meant to share in your work.
  • Your gifts are not for everyone. I can’t hear this enough, and I can’t say it enough: I’m pretty sure you don’t need to appeal to seven billion people to succeed in your business. I am certain that the ones you are meant to serve — the ones who need you — will find you with so much more ease if you can let go of trying to appeal to the whole planet and talk directly to your tribe (the ones who crave what you’ve got, sister).
  • Resistance to claiming a niche comes from fear. I know this from experience. I used to say I was an intentional generalist. I finally realized that I was using that fancy phrase to cover the fear that if I didn’t take all the work that I could, all the work that was offered, I wouldn’t survive. I promise you, when you plant your flag, and start offering your gifts to your ideal client, you can move into your sovereignty in your business. And your tribe, your ideal clients, will learn so much from your discernment, from how you choose those with whom you work. They will learn, and they will have mad respect for you!

How are you going with claiming your niche? Is it easy? Is there any resistance, any stuckness? Share your experience in the comments!

 

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Posted on April 6th, 2014. Posted in these categories: gratitude, niche. 29 Comments