Three ways to find your own voice

I’m off on a holiday retreat, a sacred month-long journey, and a writing break.

Propelled and inspired by the energy of the Cardinal Grand Cross and eclipse season, I am taking the crazy audacious step of an entire month away from work. I know I will be coming back spiritually recharged and ready for inspired action. Are you interested in getting help with your business, with defining and manifesting your passion, mission and purpose in everything you do? Are you feeling called to find out more about Astrology for Your Business? Send me an email, or fill out the form on the Share Your Magic page here on the website, and I will get back to you the last week in May.

By the magic of technology, I get to schedule these guest posts for you, one each week that I’m gone. Enjoy!

This is a guest post, by my friend and website client Ann Brown. Her website is beautiful (I do say so myself!) and shows her beautiful heart. She lives in England, and she brings so much heart and tenderness to everything she says and writes; you’re in for a treat. (I’ve left her spelling and punctuation untouched.)


singer-own-voiceOwn your own voice

As an introvert, I’m more comfortable writing things down than speaking ‘live’ to a group of people. Yet until 2 years ago, I was terrified of offering my opinion even in writing. I would freeze and be unable to even gather my thoughts, let alone write them down for others to see.

What made the difference?

For me, it was finding an online forum where I felt safe and could practice adding my thoughts, and where I trusted that people would respect what I had to say.

I learned that what I have to say is actually valuable to others and
that my ‘take’ on something is worth expressing because other people might not have thought of it.

I’m not comfortable being the centre of attention. Yet, because I want to get my message across and help the women I’m here to serve, I know I have to find a way to make my voice heard in a way that fits who I am.

Do you sometimes feel stuck with what to say or write when it comes to expressing yourself?

With social media statuses swirling all around us, and marketing messages getting ever louder to grapple for our attention, is it any wonder that we sometimes struggle to find our voice?

The vital thing to remember is the world needs you exactly as you are. Your words, your message, and your essence are deeply valuable and much needed in the world.

How can you begin to find your own voice?

Stop comparing yourself to other people

How many times have you heard someone speak, or read something, and made a snap judgement about them compared to you?

“Oh I could never speak as well as them….”

“They’ve got it all worked out and I haven’t ….”

I’ve done that. (And I still do sometimes … I’m human.)

But the important thing is to catch it when it happens. Remind yourself that you know nothing about their life, what goes on behind the scenes, or how many years of repeated mistakes and failures they went through to get where they are.

Because each time you compare yourself to others, the ‘real you’ shrinks back a little further,  undermining your real voice, and making it harder to speak up.

Consciously choose to be on your own path instead. Move one foot in front of the other, knowing you’ll get where you’re going in your own way, because that’s the only way you CAN get there!

It’s OK NOT to have an opinion

I used to cringe and shy away when people started talking about politics or the economy. I would worry that there was something seriously wrong with me that I couldn’t speak eloquently on these topics. And I would wonder,  am I somehow backward ? Is there an essential part of my brain missing, that I cannot have an intelligent conversation about certain things?

Err, no.

I’ve now come to realise that there are certain topics (politics and the economy being two of them) that I just don’t have an opinion about. Is it that those topics just don’t interest me ? Perhaps (because that’s certainly true).

I’ve given up sweating that I’m not ‘in the race’ and not able to debate the pros and cons and ins and outs, or even give my opinion.

I’m becoming more comfortable with saying “I don’t have an opinion on that”.

You too can choose to quit the worry about certain subjects and decide that you just don’t care to discuss certain things.

And that’s that.

That leaves you more open to finding the things that DO interest you and that you would really love to discover your opinion about.

Listen to yourself.

In the bath, in the shower, when you’re driving, walking, cooking, whatever you’re doing, I’ll bet my dog’s dinner that you’re talking to yourself and giving your opinions quite freely.

You know deep down what interests you, what you think and feel about things and what your heart wants to share with the world. I wrote another post on this topic last year.

It’s important to catch those words before they’re swept away with all the other stuff that passes through your mind.

Try writing your thoughts and feelings out first thing in the morning (in the form of Morning Pages, coined by Julia Cameron). It will help bring your true feelings to the surface. Morning Pages can help you realise what you think about something and get comfortable expressing it without have to share it publicly.

Whichever way you do it, keep trying different things and keep doing it. Listening to yourself is a lifelong habit that will really help you to align with your highest purpose.

Among all the noise in the world today, it’s important for you to find your voice because your words, your message and your essence are deeply valuable and much needed.

When you begin to find your voice, you’ll be more comfortable with what you say and write, and your words will flow more freely, giving you a way to get your important message out in the world!

I’d love to hear from you, please share in the comments — what helps you to connect with your voice?


headshot Ann Brown wants to live in a world where women feel confident expressing their unique selves, and are able to live their lives full of purpose and meaning. As an intuitive coach and NLP practitioner, she’s appeared on the Heart of Business blog.

When she’s not helping women recognize their needs and get them met, you can find her walking her dog in the forest, baking (and eating) double chocolate muffins, and watching the clouds float by in her hammock.
Her latest program — Express Your Real Self — is waiting to help you do just that! Learn how to re-connect with the deepest parts of yourself on her Happy Being You website.

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  1. Ann, what a beautiful post.. i bet this resonates with everyone who’s braved the inner turmoil to begin writing and offering their view to the world. We’ve all been there, and as you say, we’re human and will revisit that place at times. Was speaking of this to a friend yesterday who’s starting out and this post is exactly what will inspire her to keep on moving in the direction her soul is calling her too, just as it’s inspired me to keep going, sincere thanks, much love your way <3

    • Thankyou Caroline! Yes, that’s all we can ever do is keep on moving in the direction we’re being called… one step at a time. I appreciate you taking the time to comment! 🙂

  2. Just like it does with other people, really listening helps with finding one’s own voice. I am sometimes so “cluttered” with emotions and physical sensations that I have to consciously tune in and listen in order to hear what’s really going on with me.

    Being in tune with these things is the first step to sharing my voice with the world. Thank you for your wise words, Ann!

  3. You’re so welcome Sibylle. Yes, being in tune with yourself beyond the ‘clutter’ is so important. Thankyou for taking the time to comment! 🙂

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