Maiden, Mother, Crone, and always, always, the Queen
This may be a bit of a stretch, but stretching is always good… let’s dive in
I’ll get us started with these words from The art of blessing the day by Marge Piercy.
…the discipline of blessings is to taste each moment, the bitter, the sour, the sweet, and the salty….
Attention is love, what we must give children, mothers, fathers, pets, our friends, the news, the woes of others. What we want to change we curse and then pick up a tool.
The sacred journey of gratitude is powerful, and grows more powerful the more you live it, feel it, and express it
Let’s look at gratitude and how it may ripen as you ripen in your own life.
I know that I finally understood that there could be no conditions on gratitude when I was critically ill last summer, because every condition gets in the way of the big magic gratitude can bring to your life. Until my big hospital drama happened (ERs, ICUs, crash teams, the whole megillah), I didn’t realize that I had plenty of conditions on my gratitude. Yes, okay, I can be grateful for this, and this, and okay even this, but never that! I have finally learned that ever “never that” blocks me from being All In. And every block in the way of being All In keeps me stuck in a yucky victim space.
I don’t mean I’m a fully realized being; there may be more “never that!’s” to release in my life. (It’s a good bet that there may be more in store for me as I live, grow, and age.) But last year’s adventure left me with a big, fat, spiritual awakening to just what’s included in (as Piercy describes it) the bitter, the sour, the sweet, and the salty. I’ll add: And the life-threatening. And the embarrassing. And the difficult. And the “Are you kidding me? Seriously?”
The stages of a woman’s life — Maiden, Mother, Crone, and always, always the Queen
You don’t have to be young to be energized and free. You don’t have to have children at home to be nurturing. You don’t have to be old to know your sacred wisdom. You don’t have to have a (visible) crown to stand sovereign and regal in the space you create when you follow your heart and your dreams.
While the first three — Maiden, Mother, and Crone — may be traditionally seen as biological and age-related, I contend that the energy of the Maiden, the Mother, and the Crone are always within, and can be accessed as needed throughout life. Tragically, our modern culture doesn’t know very well how to support and teach Maiden-Mother-Crone-Queen awareness any more, but luckily women can find each other (covens, support groups, business masterminds) for the necessary training and practice to develop and perfect this sacred access, knowledge, and understanding.
The Queen? Standing sovereign in your regality is the Divine Feminine energy made manifest. We are Queens from birth to death, just like we are Maidens, Mothers, and Crones. It just takes a combination of support from other women, life experience, and a dash of self-love to realize and take ownership of your regality.
The Maiden and her sacred journey of gratitude
The Maiden belongs to and answers to no one but herself. Her mission (and it’s so much fun!) is discovering her creative force, exploring pleasure, and learning how to take care of her self. She acts from desire, she follows her dreams, she has bold ideas, and she dances through life with abandonment.
How Maiden gratitude may be expressed:
- I am grateful for the energy to explore the world, from inside myself to the farthest reaches of my interest and curiosity.
- I am grateful that I am in charge of me.
- I am grateful for the creative force that drives me to begin, and create, and begin again.
The Mother and her sacred journey of gratitude
The Mother accepts responsibility and puts her energy into her creative acts. She fiercely protects and nurtures whom and what she is driven to create by weaving together her ideas, dreams, and desires, then giving birth to something tangible. As she faces tests and challenges, she develops compassion, and learns how to surrender to the need for selflessness as a complement to the Maiden’s selfishness in order to give life to what she’s called to birth.
How Mother gratitude may be expressed:
- I am grateful for this devotion that lets me birth and nurture my ideas, my projects, my causes.
- I am grateful that I am able to feed and water and protect that which is mine to mother.
- I am grateful to be in tune with the rhythm of creation, and to take my place in its dance.
The Crone and her sacred journey of gratitude
The Crone shares her wisdom. She has learned to keep her wisdom inside herself, and to make it available to others when she is moved to give of herself. Her creativity is about transformation — in herself, in her family, in her business, in her community, in the world. She both leads and offers comfort to those behind her on the path. She knows about endings, and how to release what no longer serves her or her work.
How Crone gratitude may be expressed:
- I am grateful because I know how to cut the cord and move on.
- I am grateful that I have learned to let people be who they are because they’re going to be anyway.
- I am grateful for knowing that all the changes that come to my body, my relationships, my business, are just transitions and are part of the cosmic dance of creation, death and rebirth.
The Queen and her sacred journey of gratitude
While the Queen’s regal and sovereign stance and energy is available to you always, throughout life, it often isn’t until midlife that you may realize that you are missing something and then reach for the crown. Claiming this sovereignty, you can strategize what exactly needs to be done to clear the path for the next stage of your magnificent unfolding.
How Queen gratitude may be expressed:
- I am grateful to be able to let go of expectations and old patterns so that I can reclaim my dreams, visions, and wishes.
- I am grateful that if I may find myself going down a road that is not aligned with joy and inspiration — with my highest good — I can draw a new map!
- I am grateful that I get to renounce disempowering beliefs and replace them with audacious, daring, adventurous, and juicy new thoughts any time and as often as I would like.
Do you find yourself being able to feel and express gratitude across all these energies in your life? Does one or more come more easily than others? What have you experienced that I totally left out? I’d love to know what you think; let’s talk in the comments.