Your doctors are your friends.
Let’s look at some of the reasons why it’s so important to stay humble, grounded and centered in your life as a maker.
I’ve been a maker for a long time now — decades. When I started, my health was more robust and more easily taken for granted than it is now.
I research and create many up my own remedies — tinctures, salves, oils, preparations of various kinds. And when my symptoms and/or my health change, often the very first thing I do is research and figure out what I can make to improve my situation.
But! Sometimes figuring stuff out on your own is not the best option.
This latest round of health dramas brought me up short: I realized that I’ve slipped a little bit past center (in the direction of arrogant “I’ve got this!” know-it-all). Phew. I’m relieved to have shifted back to being centered, humble, and grateful for all the amazing doctors I have in my network of healers, and for their training and knowledge.
What arrogance as a maker can look like.
I’ve become so committed to the idea of going natural, using source ingredients, avoiding pharmaceuticals, additives, and ingredients that I don’t approve of. In the ferocity of my commitment, I’ve lost my balance a bit. Yes, this is embarrassing to tell you. Now that I’ve had this wakeup call, I realize that there’s a time and a place to hold out for whatever combination of homemade and all-natural suits my fancy; and there are most definitely times and places to put those preferences and distinctions aside and simply listen to the doctor and follow her recommendations.
Hey — I’m lucky. Okay, maybe not so lucky.
I am more willing, and more open to listening to a doctor when I feel like the doctor is also interested in listening to me. As I can (like clearly not in an emergency) I ask people for recommendations and I actively interview each doctor. I will keep looking to find a doctor with whom I can feel some level of simpatico. Here’s the lucky part: I just met my cardiologist for the first time. In fact, this is the first time ever in my life that I have dealings with this kind of specialist for myself. (How did I get this old? Cardiologists are doctors my parents went to!). I did get really lucky: she’s amazing — kind and patient and careful.
She’s got a complementary bent as well: she’s aware of lifestyle (food, image nutrition, drugs, alcohol, exercise), and asked me about my relationship to all them, more than once. I could tell she was being really diligent to get to the bottom of me and how I roll every way she could. I left her office completely on board with the monitoring idea as well as the blood pressure medication.
But it was not easy for me to really let go.
First I had to spend 30 minutes in whole foods looking for a holistic replacement for baby aspirin. I finally took myself over to CVS and bought a bottle of baby aspirin. I had some shedding of preferences and prejudices to do.
I feel liberated from my perhaps ever so slightly extreme adherence to “I’ll do it the way I had developed over these last 20+ years I’ve been a maker.”
It feels good, and solid, to come back to center.
And while my flag is still firmly planted in the center of my healing journey, it’s good to remember that I don’t necessarily know best. I’m glad it didn’t take me anything more dramatic than what I’ve been through in the last few weeks to realize that and let it go enough to feel like I’m being more right-sized in my decisions.
While my ferocity may have softened, my love for the art of making has by no means gone away. Researching and combining foods and plants and herbs in various combinations can let your inner beauty shine in such a lovely way. Increasing ease and strengthening robust good health with home remedies is a lovely and wonderful thing to do — but it by no means replaces having a really good doctor (or doctors) on your team. And it certainly does not mean that you should scoff at or ignore or override doctors recommendations. As my friend Lynn said to me today over lunch, “When it comes to having a healthy ticker, start by doing what the doctor suggests. Ask questions, but take the meds.”
So yes, dear one, it is possible to become a maker and to expand your repertoire of healing and beauty products that you make. And it’s also possible to stay grounded and balanced and humble as you go. Let’s look at it together. Please join me in the Divinely Feminine Part of Making workshops that are coming up. There is one on Monday the 12th in my home in Petaluma at 7 o’clock, and there’s one on Tuesday the 13th in a virtual classroom (we’ll meet on Zoom). All details and registration info are right here.