And was told I wasn’t doing it right
I know the facilitator had nothing but my healing in mind when she told me to go deeper, and to reach for more. I’m not sure exactly what she had in mind a little later when she suggested that because I wasn’t having a deep and profound experience I was perhaps disassociating.
I know from my own experience as a student of transformational technologies, and as a teacher, that not everyone has the same capacity — in any given moment — for a breakthrough. That everyone has her own pace, her own journey, and follows her own unique path. Which is often not linear nor predictable — a spiral that bends back upon itself and then goes forward and then bends again…. I also believe that techniques are not cookie cutters — not everyone is a good fit for everything.
In my own private practice, I find that every client is unique and that what tools and techniques work for one may not work for another, or maybe not in the same order, or maybe it will take longer for one to get the benefit than for another. Even in my group trainings, with a set curriculum, I make space for lots of individualization, as needed, because my clients are beautiful, quirky, unique individuals.
Stand for yourself as the beautiful unique individual you are
Whether you’re learning something, or teaching something, being a participant in a workshop, or leading your own class, be yourself. Your beautiful, human, self. As you are. The more you can do this, the more you can find, claim and rock your niche!
This workshop I attended offered me a powerful opportunity to realize and take ownership of something very useful…What you have, who you are, these are your unique gifts. Everything you have survived and transformed becomes the gifts you can offer to the people you serve.
There are many reasons to claim your niche for your business
- On your journey, as you heal each and every single thing that has brought you to be the beautiful woman you are today — every wound, every trauma, every joy, every regret, every loss — those things begin to change and become transformed into your own unique gifts — into exactly what it is you are meant to share in your work.
- Your gifts are not for everyone. I can’t hear this enough, and I can’t say it enough: I’m pretty sure you don’t need to appeal to seven billion people to succeed in your business. I am certain that the ones you are meant to serve — the ones who need you — will find you with so much more ease if you can let go of trying to appeal to the whole planet and talk directly to your tribe (the ones who crave what you’ve got, sister).
- Resistance to claiming a niche comes from fear. I know this from experience. I used to say I was an intentional generalist. I finally realized that I was using that fancy phrase to cover the fear that if I didn’t take all the work that I could, all the work that was offered, I wouldn’t survive. I promise you, when you plant your flag, and start offering your gifts to your ideal client, you can move into your sovereignty in your business. And your tribe, your ideal clients, will learn so much from your discernment, from how you choose those with whom you work. They will learn, and they will have mad respect for you!
How are you going with claiming your niche? Is it easy? Is there any resistance, any stuckness? Share your experience in the comments!
I have so much gratitude!
- I am grateful for how far I’ve come. I was able to immerse myself (at the level that works for me) in a new experience, and drink in some bliss, learn some new techniques, and meet some lovely people.
- I am grateful for finding opportunities — and acting on them! — to be generous.
- I am grateful I volunteered to pick my sister up at the airport last night. I so enjoy her company!
- I am grateful for having completed the bookings for my journey. I am all set with places to rest my head for my big California road trip that starts in less than three weeks!
- I am grateful for this crazy thing I’m doing; I’m taking a month off! For the second time in my life. I traveled to Europe (for the first time) in 2010, and now will be visiting Big Sur, Santa Barbara, Joshua Tree, Kernville (Sequoia National Park), Mammoth Lakes (Death Valley, Kings Canyon), South Lake Tahoe, and Sonora (Yosemite).
What gratitude do you have today? I’d love to hear from you in the comments. And, if you know of any amazing places along my path of my sacred journey, please jump in and let me know. I’m compiling an amazing list: Cambria, Integratron (an acoustically perfect dome in the desert), Devil’s Postpile, Bristlecone pines (the oldest trees in the world) in the white mountains, hot springs in Markleeville and Death Valley. Got any to add? FYI I’m driving a Camry, so off-roading is not on the agenda!