Open to receive. Say “Yes!”

Are you open to receive? Are you a “Yes!” to unexpected gifts and invitations?

Open to receive. Say "Yes!"

Yes, that’s a picture of Kaua’i, and I’ll tell you why.

I’ve been yearning to return to Hawai’i. I’ve been there exactly twice in my life, and each time I felt like I was visiting one of my heart’s homes — a feeling that permanently resonates in my heart. You know what I mean? Those places where you feel like you’ve already lived, where you feel like you belong, where you feel like you could thrive. Hawai’i is like that for me. Provence as well. And always and forever Brooklyn. But I digress…

I’ve traveled almost not at all since I got so sick last year. And wasn’t really planning to do anything any time soon in the way of travel besides local road trips, for health reasons as well as financial reasons.

And then my friend — I’ll call him Walter because it’s his name — surprised me with an amazing gift. Walter goes to Hawai’i to golf eight times a year and has a timeshare plan where he gets a condo each time he goes. I asked him once, after meeting up with him on the Big Island last time I visited, if he ever had a guest room in his timeshares. He said “Yes!”

It was interesting to watch my reaction. It was hard to accept the gift.

  • In order to accept a week on Kaua’i I knew I would have to ask Walter some questions that made me very uncomfortable. Questions about expectations, and questions about sleeping arrangements. A very big part of my monkey mind would have been much more comfortable, thank you, if I just said “No, thanks,” and moved on. The conversations Walter and I had in response to my questions were amazing!

    Check this out: Walter told me that he had begun to wonder how he could share this bounty with others. Right about that time, I asked him if I could stay with him. Amazing how the universe works sometimes. Seren-freaking-dipity! Would never have happened if I hadn’t asked. Would never have happened if Walter hadn’t already decided to open things up.

  • In order to be a “Yes!” to the offer, I would have to look at my fear about my health and my finances. Do I have the bandwidth to fly, to pack and schlep luggage, to step out of my comfort zone, to figure out things like “What do I do with my phone and rental car key when I’m snorkeling?”

    I’ve been a solo traveler a lot in my life, and I’ve learned how to lower the bar. I have nothing to prove to anyone. As I learned long ago from Jen Louden, I can set “conditions of enoughness” and meet myself exactly where I’m at. I can rest as much as I want, walk as much as I want, snorkel as much as I want (I will figure out what to do with the phone and car keys!), and then rest some more.

  • I had to get past some other crazy ego resistances to get to “Yes.” Like “not glamorous enough,” “not a long enough trip.” Ugh, sometimes I just amaze myself.

I said “Yes!” I fly to Kaua’i on May 3rd.

Are you open to receive?

What do you need to do, or change, to get to “Yes!”?

  • When you are asked to contribute a blogpost, or be interviewed for a podcast about your business — something that may help you grow your business — is it easy for you to accommodate the request? What gets in the way?
  • That enthusiasm that arises when you say “Yes!” to something you like? Allow yourself to connect to that feeling so you can be a “Yes” to something you don’t like. “Yes” to a difficult client. “Yes” to the pain in your body. “Yes” to your negative thoughts. “Yes” to the positive ones!
  • See if this works for you: Say “Yes” as a way to escape your own self-obsession and enjoy the relief that comes when you think of someone else for a while.

What comes up for you when you read this? I’d love to hear your thoughts; jump into the conversation in the comments section below. And if you have a foolproof way to snorkel solo and protect your possessions, for the love of the Goddess, tell me!

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  1. Enjoy! I’ve been to Hawaii once and it was only 3 days, with two very young children and we still had an amazing trip! I’m ready to go back at any point.

    Staying open and being willing to accept the stunning and surprising gifts the Universe presents is a beautiful thing! Thank you for the reminder.

    • Deb, welcome, and thanks for taking the time to comment. Love how we can remind each other of these powerful and yet sometimes elusive truths.


  2. Sue, I love this post! Why is it so hard for some of us to ask? Why is it so hard for some of us to say YES? I am so PROUD of you for saying yes, you deserve this trip. And I’m especially happy that you have shared this vulnerability with the world so that we can all benefit. I’m just waiting for someone to offer me something wonderful so I can say, YES, too! 😉

    • Sheila, you should see the big grin on my face. Thank you so much for shining this light on just how big this is.

      In gratitude,

  3. Way to go Manifesting Queen 🙂 I love the idea of being open to receiving and your beautiful image of Kauai. I also have been practicing asking for what I need recently and it’s amazing how well it works, doh! Why have I been so afraid to ask… So excited for you and your trip. Enjoy and I look forward to seeing photos.

    • Minette, thanks! Asking and being open to the response is scary but so amazing.

      Keep asking!

      Oh, and there will be photos!


  4. That is just awesome and how wonderful. The power of asking and then receiving is so important to our growing. I have always been drawn to Hawaii too, yet to go there blessings

  5. Sue what a beautiful gift – so pleased you were able to witness the journey of accepting. Thanks you. We had a brief stop over in Hawaii on our return from the visiting family in San Francisco. We loved the energy and the people – very much like my home in Far North Queensland. Enjoy your time there. xox

    • Jacqueline, thanks.

      That’s another dream — to visit Australia. Universe: I am a Yes! Thanks in advance.

      Love and light,

    • Angela, welcome — I am so glad that we have connected! And I agree: being able to step away from self-obsession is a huge gift. I think every Yes! helps heal that.


  6. Sue I am in the space of allowing. Really taking a hard look at the barriers I have erected to prevent the flow of abundance. It’s funny how we can convince ourselves that we are allowing… when we really are not. I am ready for yes. Yes to abundance. Yes to financial abundance. Yes to love. Yes to being cared for. And yes to travel too!

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful reminder of how beautiful life can be when we allow it. <3

  7. Beautiful! I love the message that saying YES to life shows the Universe that you’re serious about being happy and experiencing all the joy in the world. May you have a most wonderful trip!

  8. I’m so happy for you, Sue! Have a beautiful time in Hawaii.

    I definitely have some challenges when it comes to saying “yes” and you’ve nailed them so beautifully with your questions. Thank you so much!

    • Sandra, you bless me with your words. So glad I’m not alone. So glad and grateful for your honesty (here and in your own writings) — you inspire me.

      Love and magical journeys,

  9. Congrats on your upcoming trip to Kauai! It is such a magical and incredible place. It can be hard to say “yes” sometimes, but I’m so glad you did!

  10. Sue! Oh yes yes YES! 🙂 Have a wonderful trip. Regarding your possessions while swimming, you can get watertight ziplock bags. Double-bag your stuff, tuck it in your wetsuit and go!

  11. Thank you so much for this messagge. Saying yes sometimes could be so amazingly difficult. I have received an invitation from a man I like so much and have procastinated my answer for fear: fear of not attractivness, not being glamouros enough but even sillier things as “oh Gosh, I do not have proper clothes” (and he’s living on the mountains and not really caring about this sort of things). when I’ve finally decided to get to him, he’s not available anymore. so thanks, I’ll certainly say “yes” next time as soon as I get the offer!

    • Micaela, welcome!

      I know this pain of the results of hesitation; I get it. Love how you’ve set your intention for the next time.

      Love and light,

  12. Oh thank heaven you’re not coming until May Sue! It’s been raining for weeks, high winds, cold as hell with snow on Haleakala and Mauna Kea.

    Reading your post caused me to think about a few recent opportunities I passed on because I was too busy or it just wasn’t the right timing. Great reminder and I’m taking it to heart. 🙂

    • Marty, I’ve got my fingers crossed that milder weather will be present at the beginning of May. Snow! Wow!

      Where are you in Hawai’i?


  13. Your favorite places are Hawaii, Provence, and Brooklyn – you are my kinda gal! I know you’re going to have a terrific time – kudos to you for opening up to the Universe!!

  14. Sue, I remember a time many years ago when I wanted to participate in a 21-day training in Sedona. So many reasons why I could NOT do it popped up in my mind. But once I said, ‘YES’, the ‘how’ came together beautifully. Thank you for the reminder to say ‘yes’ to ourselves. 🙂

    • Nat, I’m sorry I haven’t replied yet… I love your story of Yes! Thanks for sharing, and welcome here.

      Love and light,

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