I had a tooth pulled today. An infected molar.
And I was so worried that it wouldn’t go perfectly.
For a variety of reasons—old trauma, sensitive teeth—I have this pattern of anxiety around dental work. I’ve had an extraction before. It was difficult. I have a history of painful (and expensive) dental work. By the time I walked into the dentist’s office today, I was anxious! I was all up in my head, and my thoughts weren’t pretty.
Luckily for me, I had some time in the waiting room. Time and my iPhone. I pulled up Twitter. One of my sheros, Molly Gordon, had just tweeted this:
What would you allow yourself to do today if failure is an option? Think about it!
I totally love those angel moments. You know what I mean? Someone says something, not necessarily to you, that turns out to be just the insight you needed. And Molly’s tweet was just that for me today. It freed me from the anxiety loop I was in. I had been worrying that things wouldn’t turn out right, that the procedure would hurt too much, that the tooth wouldn’t come out cleanly, that it wouldn’t heal. Reading Molly’s words created instant spaciousness and allowed me to shift to a different and more easeful context.
Yes, things might not go perfectly. Yes, failure is an option. Always. But I was able to feel into my heart and connect with this: that even if things went wrong, even if there was a big fail, it could and would get dealt with.
Maybe there’s a better definition of perfection.
Maybe perfection is simply having faith in the process, trusting that whatever happens is the right and perfect outcome, and knowing—remembering—that beautiful truth, that I haven’t been brought this far to be dropped on my head.
What’s your definition of perfection? How have you been able to let go of what you think should happen and embrace what actually is happening instead? Please share your story in the comments.
Speaking of perfection, let’s talk about the upcoming Full Moon in Virgo, on Monday, 2/25, at 12:26pm Pacific
The February Full Moon is known, in various cultures, as:
– Snow Moon
– Hunger Moon
– Storm Moon
– Rest Cleansing Moon
– Butterfly Clan Moon
– Otter People Moon
– Wild Moon
– Quickening Moon
– Quaking Aspen Moon
– Trapper’s Moon
– Budding Moon
– Bony Moon
– Moon of Ice
The Full Moon always invites you to celebrate the progress you’ve made on manifesting the intentions you set on the previous New Moon. As the Moon has waxed towards full, what have you taken on? What have you risked?
Some of the things to look at as we come up on the Virgo Full Moon
The Virgo Moon is opposing the Sun in Pisces, but that ain’t all. There are a whole lot of planets gathering in watery, emotional, dreamy and transcendent Pisces over the next week or so in addition to the Sun: Mercury, Venus, Mars and Neptune. The effect of all this energy will be strongest between 2/25 and 3/12, winding down just around the time of the next New Moon.
The first Mercury retrograde of 2013 is here (2/23–3/18), in Pisces. As usual, double- and triple-check the details, expect opinions and decisions to be more changeable than usual, avoid big purchases and signing major contracts, if you can. Refine, revise, rethink, rework, and repurpose.
Pay attention to loose ends—the loose ends this time may be connected to our feelings, our hopes and dreams. In watery and emotional Pisces this Mercury rx promises to be especially tender.
Three suggestions for a Full Moon working, for your business, for your body, for your soul
Take some time, as close to the actual Full Moon as you can to do this work. (Any time in the three-day-window of Sunday 2/24 to Tuesday 2/26 will work just fine.) You can work at your altar, or be outside, or any place you feel connected to Spirit.
Use these suggestions to tap into the energy of this Full Moon.
- Remind yourself that perfection is an illusion. Take some time in meditation and ask for compassion, forgiveness and healing around your attachment to your idea of perfection. Remember that Spirit may have bigger miracles in store for you than you could ever conceive of for yourself. Relax into the process and embrace the mystery and the flow; let things unfold.
- Use the energy of your subconscious, of your dreams and visions, to create something that heals, nourishes or otherwise benefits others. A good way to discern what you’re meant to do is to do some journaling or drawing/painting. Light a candle. Ask to be guided and shown. And just keep your hand moving on the page.
- Keep taking actions in the direction of your highest good, even if you think it’s too hard, or too late, or too big. Allow yourself to practice exquisite self-care. It doesn’t matter if there are voices in your head saying you’re not ready, or not good enough. Have faith in what’s healthy for you and have faith in yourself!
I’d love to know how this Full Moon shines upon you, bubbeleh. Please leave a comment and let me know.
I love to share my gratitude with you!
I’m grateful today.
- I am grateful that the extraction went well and that it looks like it’s healing as it should.
- I am grateful for knowing how to ask for help. I didn’t want to have to drive myself so I asked my local community for help.
- I am grateful that I can separate the ask from the results. Even if someone hadn’t come through with a ride, I would still be grateful for being able to ask.
- I am grateful that I did, in fact, get a ride from a friend, and also was gifted with his company for a couple of hours afterward. Lots of love there.
- I am grateful that my daughter and sister checked up on me right after I got home.
- I am grateful that, when I thanked my daughter for calling, that she said that she’s putting intention into her expression of love and kindness to me and others. I’m grateful to have this thoughtful loving young woman in my life and to watch her beautiful unfoldment.
- I am grateful to recognize that my dream of having a positive influence on my kid is coming true after all. It completely and utterly doesn’t look like I wanted it to, but when I let go of my stranglehold on how I think it should look I get to be crazy grateful for what it does look like and how she’s starting to want more love and joy at the tender age of 26. This kind of development took me much longer than that in my own life!
What’s moving you to gratitude today? Share your gratitude with me in the comments section below.