Freedom from perfectionism — shift to ready-go-reset

Here’s one powerful way to free yourself from perfectionist paralysis

And actually get your stuff out there so the people who need it can receive it, see it, and use it!

Ready-go-reset. Then go and reset again!
If you find yourself getting trapped in writing, re-writing, planning, replanning, delaying launch dates, and then delaying them again — your inner perfectionist may be holding you back. So far back that you wonder if you’ll ever get what you know you are meant to offer out of your head and into the hands, head, and heart of the people you are here to help.

Shift from ready-set-go to ready-go-reset.

And then reset and go again, as many times as you need to.

I’m getting ready to launch a new part of the #ShareYourMagic movement called Conscious Collaboration. (The “Let’s-do this!” announcement with live links is coming, as soon as everything is ready, hopefully in a week — I have let go of perfectionism, just need to get the many pieces in place!). 

I’ve written an eBook, and I’m offering a Facebook group as well where we can learn from each other and support each other in our social networking. This is very exciting! And yet, I find myself a full month behind my original launch date. Here’s what I’ve noticed:

  • Perfectionism paralysis: Until last week I didn’t even realize that my fiddling and fiddling and fiddling some more with the words and the design was keeping me from moving down the launch list.
  • What do I do first? I let my confusion about what to do first stop me from doing anything much at all! Yes it’s true that if I change my opt-in I must also change settings on my email provider, and language on my Thank You pages, and more. But not knowing what to do first is a really bad reason to delay moving ahead!
  • What if it’s not perfect? It won’t be. No matter how many times I proofread, and my editors proofread…. No matter how many times I tweak the design and the examples…. something will certainly be wrong, and more than one thing will certainly benefit from being revised.

That’s where the shift comes in.

The ready-set-go model can keep you stuck in perfectionism paralysis. You prepare (ready), and tweak and tweak and edit and proofread and tweak some more (set, set, set, set, set….), until you finally Go! And then you think it should be done and done, and nevermore revisited, or reset. Takes forever, and leaves you stuck.

Instead, try this: Shift to ready-go-reset!

  • Ready: prepare and execute. Do your outlines. Do your research. Gather your thoughts. Plan a timeline. Write it. Check it. Do your best with your launch list.
  • Go: send it out into the world. Celebrate. Gather the feedback. When the time feels right, take another look. And…
  • Reset. Make the changes that need to be made. Revise with the understanding and wisdom you’ve gleaned from the way the material was received and understood. And go again.

Lather-rinse-repeat. This keeps your work living, breathing, dynamic, and responsive. Over time your resets will get spaced farther apart. And you will get better, quicker, and more nimble at creation and launching.

What about you? What have you learned? Please share your wisdom and questions in the comments. Blessed be!

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I’m a barely tamed hippie, sage, seasoned, sarcastic (not all the time any more, but still). I’m a mom, a daughter, sister, a neighbor, and a friend. I’ve been on this meandering journey — like you, probably — seeking a better connection to and experience of peace, harmony, and fun in every bit of life. I’m single, quite good at it, and mostly love it. I’m here for the conversations I get to have with you, which these days center on exploring the mystery and beauty of life, work, health, aging, and creative expression. Want to know a little more about me and my journey? Explore the site. Read the blog. Connect with me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and LinkedIn.

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  1. Wow, Sue, so in this state now as well and I believe I am just starting to let go of the perfectionism and just go ahead.

    “Lather, rinse, and repeat.” I really like that analogy. Thanks for sharing what you’re working through.

    • Keyra, welcome here, and thanks for your comment. Hooray for every moment you can step aside from your perfectionism.

      Go you!

      Love and light,
      Sue

  2. Brilliant Sue! Ready Go Reset – I love it. I am surely letting go of my perfectionism since I have entered the online world or I would never send anything out into the world. Excellence not perfectionism is my mantra. I will add Ready Go Reset as well! x

    • Jacqueline, Glad it landed well for you. And thanks for setting the example. I am finally stepping out of the paralysis my inner perfectionist would keep me in. Gee, I wonder if that comes from fear. Ya think? 🙂

      Love and magic,
      Sue

    • Sheila, I am saving seats at the Perfectionist Anonymous meeting. For you and other kindred spirits. Seriously. If there was such a thing, I would own a seat there.

      Thanks for the love and support.

      xoxox
      Sue

  3. I broke up with perfectionism ages ago 🙂 For me it’s about progress, not perfection. It’s about starting before I’m ready (and sometimes I start before I even have clue!)

    Great tips Sue!!

    • Peggy, ah yes, progress not perfection. Where have I heard that before? Duh. I am a seriously slow learning, but learn I do. Progress!

      Blessings,
      Sue

  4. What is this perfectionistic blocker trying to prove and to whom? Fear of being embarrassed, shamed, judged??? Ask me about my blunder as I was speaking on a webinar recently? Yep, I got caught in self judgment, you betcha. In the end in retelling the episode, there was giant laugher and it was so healing. Yeh for blunders!

    • Diane, thanks for sharing your humanness. And for sharing how quickly you got to laughter. Yup — healing!

      Love and light,
      Sue

  5. I like to joke that I’m a recovered perfectionist. 😉

    I’m also a big fan of the RESET button. And this is the perfect time of year for pressing it. Nature is ripe with rebirth this time of year. Oh, how I love spring!

    • Michelle, welcome!

      Thanks for reminding me about the season. You are so right!

      Pressing that reset button as often as needed!

      Love,
      Sue

  6. Terrific system Sue and it’s actually one that I learned a couple of years ago while take a product launch class. The concept was just as you outlined – especially the reset.

    It really has saved me so many times because – yes, I admit it – I’m a recovering perfectionist. Although I add that I’ve made peace with that side of me. I’m passionate about what I do and I want whatever I’m working on to be as good as it can be, but I understand that it can’t help anyone if it never gets birthed. 🙂

    • Exactly, Marquita! And I love the way you put it (now here’s a motto)….

      How to release perfectionism: Remember that whatever you’re working on can’t help anyone if it never gets birthed, never sees the light of day!

  7. Sue this is me to a t especially erectly with some incompletions I have. Your system is one I have used and have noted again to put back into practice, thank you
    love Suzie xx

  8. I agree entirely that the writing life is an evolving process of making mistakes and learning from them. It’s only a tragedy if no advancement is made.

    As a perfectionist who winces every time I let a book fly free into the world, I have to let go and hope the book returns the means to grow as a writer.

    Lather, rinse, repeat. Ready, set, reset. Simple rules to live by, allowing one’s self to be perfectly imperfect.

    Thanks, Sue!

    • Jess, welcome! I’m grateful for your comment. Learning from mistakes. Failing forward. Yup, that’s it!

      Love and light,
      Sue

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