Sheltering — a guest post by Tanya Levy

Here’s this week’s guest post, the eighth in the Gratitude Practice series. I am so honored and humbled by the gratitude stories that are being shared. There is still room for *your* article, darling! This series runs until the end of this year. Do you have a gratitude practice? Please share your story… More details here.

Today I welcome Tanya Levy, who contributes articles on topics that help save money and keep sanity on the ParentingCents blog.

Sheltering—or the ten things my father taught me

In the midst of fear and change, when we are depleted or undone; those who shelter us sustain us. They sustain us with their legacies, the teachable lessons they have given us. They give us love to hold in our hearts and memories to return to like talismans. These touchstones, being touched and sheltered by another, for this I give gratitude and thanks.  Here I honor my father with the ten things he taught me.

1. Principles Matter.

In family relationships, business transactions and daily affairs; how we communicate and interact with others matter. Being fair and reasonable and treating people with respect are important. The choices we make can have a significant impact on others.

2. Value Family.

Take time to listen to your parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, children, nieces, nephews and cousins. Remember their input is important and their needs take precedence. Spend time with family members, find a way to resolve any problems, stay connected.

3. Hard Work Pays Off.

All goals and dreams require work and discipline. Estimate the work involved and work the plan. Do not be afraid of hard work but work smart. Seize opportunities to gain new skills that will improve your efficiency.

4. Ask Questions.

If you are unsure about something, ask. There is no such thing as a stupid question, life is about constantly learning. Every day offers situations for learning. Do not hesitate to question something that challenges your inner beliefs and principles.

5. Make Wise Choices.

When making a decision, evaluate the pros and cons. Consider the impact on your life and those close to you in terms of time, energy and resources. Is this the logical next step? Do you want to do this? Seek the opinions of those you trust. Do not rush your decision.

6. Trust Your Intuition.

Pay attention to what your gut tells you. If you sense danger, get out of the situation. Listen to your inner self when assessing people, situations and job prospects. Recognize synchronicity, situations where everything just fits in to place; and embrace it.

7. There is Always a Way Through.

No problem is too big or too impossible, there is always a way to solve it. Try breaking it down, consider small steps to ask for help. Give the situation some time for cooling off, sometimes it all works out on its own. If that is the case, let it go. If not, face the problem; it will often get bigger if you avoid a solution. Attempt to communicate directly with the source, if possible.

8. Expect Success.

In every life circumstance, at work or home, do your best. Effort and motivation build skill, skill builds confidence and confidence builds inner strength. With motivation, skill and inner strength, any thing is possible.

9. Celebrate Life.

Work hard and balance that with taking time to relax. Enjoy your family and friends, participate in your community, be a good neighbour. Do what you love, take time for children, nap, enjoy the sun, watch the ocean, garden, eat good food, smile a lot and laugh heartily.

10. Seek Peace.

Tension and conflict are exhausting. Look for a way to resolve a situation, negotiate, compromise or accept differences.  Every one is entitled to his/her own opinion; it is not necessary that we all agree.  Find a way to work together and live in harmony whenever possible.


Tanya Levy is a Counsellor in a Community College in Cape Breton, Nova Scotia. She provides personal and academic counseling for adult learners.  She is known for her optimism, wisdom and sense of humour.  She contributes regularly to the ParentingCents blog on topics that help save money and keep sanity. You can reach her at


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    • @MagnoliasWest
       Sue:  Thank you.  It’s true, I return to these principles when I need a reminder to focus on happiness and hope. xo Tanya

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