The gifts in the silence

I’m in the silence today. I have laryngitis.

It’s only been two days, but when you aren’t speaking, it seems like time slows down.

Feels like I’ve been in silence for a week.


I took a pad and pen with me to my hairdresser, to the clothes shop, to the taco restaurant — and everywhere I went I wrote down my questions. Or made feeble gestures. (I so wish I knew how to sign!)

There is a bit of frustration all around — mine being that I can’t write quickly enough or neatly enough — but everyone was very willing to help. Here’s a weird bit: Almost everyone assumed I was deaf. Tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention. Added gestures to what they said. Wrote down their words. And since I was/am being as compliant as I can be in this healing mode, I couldn’t tell them anything. Interesting.

There are gifts in the silence. What I’ve noticed so far:

  • When there’s less coming out of your mouth, you become more attuned to the internal conversation. Thoughts. Feelings. Love. Making present and authentic connections in the silence is a powerful thing. Try it. Even if you don’t have a physical reason to do so.
  • Time really does appear to slow down and open up space for meditation and introspection. There’s more space to breathe. To connect. To be in this now moment. And the next. Which is good, because it gives me more time to gargle. And sip a mixture of cider/kombucha vinegar and my amazing bronchial tea with honey, cayenne, and lemon.
  • You are more connected to you in the silence — which is a great opportunity for self-care. What I notice is that I notice more. My fatigue. Exactly how my throat feels. What I might do to better care for myself — cancel client calls and business networking events for starters.

Chakras affirmations for the holiday season.Speaking of meditation, I’m answering the call — here’s a printable chakras meditation.

When some of you said you were going to print out the chakras meditation from last week’s blog, I realized that the quality of the image was not going to make anyone happy.

So I made a beautiful version that will print perfectly. Click here or on the image on the left and get your download.

I was even going to record the instructions for you, but laryngitis. So, love, go back to the previous post and use the written instructions, or record them in your own voice (the best way I know), leaving ample time for five or so breaths between each step.

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I’d love to know your thoughts.

About silence. About the upcoming Solstice and the turning of the wheel. About the chakras work — I’ve been doing it and it’s amazing!

Let me know what’s in your heart in the comments. Blessed be.

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  1. I love spending time in silence but generally stay home when I do. I agree — I’m so much more aware of what’s going on (both in and around me) than when I’m focused on making sounds. And, thanks for the chakra meditation. I look forward to printing it out.

    • You’re welcome, Andrea. Now that I’m doing the chakra meditation, I found that I wanted a printout at hand too (instead of having to find it on my blog). Guess I’m responding to my own request!

      Love and light,

    • Lisa, yes it’s interesting and continues to be. When I gesture (because writing notes is slow), the person I’m talking to gestures also. I love that — people want to meet each other where they’re at. So much kindness in that!


  2. Sue,
    I lost my voice for almost a week last January. I actually love and crave silence in my days (probably to balance out my loud/energetic nature), so part of it was not too bad for me. A healer friend of mine made the comment that energetically I was preparing to usher in my “new voice” and it is amazing what happened with my year as a writer!! Something kind of cool to consider ;0)
    Thank You for the chakra meditation! I’m going to enjoy using it in my “quiet time.”
    I hope you feel better soon!!

    • Jen, welcome here; I’m so glad we’ve connected.

      I love this. “Ushering in my new voice!” Thank you.

      And I’ll tell you I had a powerful experience today meditating with the chakras and imagining toning the seed sounds and saying the affirmations. Wow!

      Love and magic,

  3. Silence is a blessing in disguise. As I tune into it more and more these days, I find myself in a state of peace and tranquility. It’s very healing. Thank you for the chakra meditation, I will post it in my office.

    • Hi Josee, and welcome!

      It is a blessing in disguise. I’ll tell you; it changed everything for me to accept the silence and enjoy it. I’m even a little sad to get my voice back today. I think I’ll baby my voice back to health by keeping silent as much as I can today. And I so wish I knew how to sign!

      Love and light,

    • Melissa, so true — the power of listening. Yesterday I went for a walk with a new friend and invited her (by gesture) to tell me more of her story. It was so lovely to let her fill the space with her truth.

      I’ve observed a lot over these three (long!) days about how much I want to fill the pauses. Hope I can hold on to how lovely it feels when I don’t do that.

      Blessed be.

  4. Beautiful! I love the chart and the affirmations. And I love so much how when you quiet your voice, you get in touch with yourself. So true!

  5. Personally I love being in silence as much as possible. I am not the one who needs to have music or the TV or some other ambient sounds in my space. Yet, quieting my mind is another thing altogether. I still have fabulous conversations with me, myself and I. Some of my most profound ideas meander in during my times of silence. Although having laryngitis might not be the most ideal way to have the experiences you have, there is always something to take away, if we choose to. Thanks for the lovely downloadable chakra chart as well. Feel better!

    • Funny, just turned on some music, then read your comment. I do like silence, and I do like music. And TV. So now I can talk, and now I have pneumonia. Still getting to spend a lot of time in solitude. And learning opportunities with every breath.

      Blessed be.

  6. Wishing you ease and healing, Sue! And deeply appreciate the gifts of silence you are noticing, naming, celebrating.

    When living in British Columbia, I would sometimes spend weekends at an ashram in private retreat. There were others there too, doing their own thing, but the surrounds were so silent, so still.

    Meals in the communal dining hall were in silence. And I stayed in that space, without words, for the rest of the time too (this wasn’t unusual–there were typically a few people doing silent retreats).

    Ahhh. What relief it brought. A chance to fully exhale, fully check in–and more fully notice the world around me. I longed for it, and found it hard to leave.

    • Dana, Thanks. As little as I was looking for this silent retreat, it’s been the source of a lot of wisdom, and patience, and blessing.

      Still haven’t got to “fully exhaling” yet — lungs far too impacted. But I’m consciously exhaling most of the time, and that’s a gift in itself.


  7. hi, silence has taught me a lot, i became aware that a few words well said is more important than an hour of talking. Thanks for sharing. beautiful post.

    • Sherill, choosing those few words — I still have a lot to learn in that department. As usual, I’m pretty good with talking or not talking, but that middle ground — still learning!

      Solstice blessings,

  8. So sorry about your laryngitis Sue! As an ‘extreme’ Introvert I know all too well the benefits of silence, for me it’s a critical part of self-care. But as you’ve pointed out there are many benefits. I’ve always been a people watcher, and love just sitting back and observing how others’ behave – especially at airports! Wishing you all the best for the holidays and New Year! 🙂

    • Marquita, I’m a fan of people watching too, but I too often have my head in my phone or a book to indulge. Thanks for the reminder.

      Solstice blessings to you, dear one.

      Love and magic,

  9. I started working from a home office almost eight years ago. What I’ve noticed most is that without all the office buzz and chatter that comes from working in a large office space, I can drill down and focus so much more efficiently.

    • Kimba, I know! Now that I have a housemate (after living/working alone for so long) it’s been quite an adjustment for me to not get distracted by her.

      Life and its learning opportunities, yay!


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