Do you ever get so frustrated that you begin to think that you’re doing it wrong, and that you should just give up?
- Do you wonder if anyone is reading what you write? And worry that you’re not getting enough new subscribers, the ones you want, members of your ideal-client tribe?
- Do you share generously and consistently on social media and wonder why your followers and likes aren’t growing?
- Do you put your gifts out as beautiful offers and wonder if anyone will ever sign up for your teachings, and if your business will survive and thrive?
Do you begin to wonder if you should just give up? You can’t, you just can’t, and I’ll tell you why.
The story that follows will illustrate why your only choice is to just keep showing up, transparently, authentically, passionately, from your heart. Because you don’t get to know when the right and perfect person will remember the right and perfect thing you wrote or said, and take the right and perfect action, the one you intended in the first place.
[You may wonder how the following story applies to your business. It does, precious. The lesson in this story is not only about your business, it applies to your relationships, your wellness practices, your spirituality, your everything.]
I raised my daughter through some incredibly difficult years. As she became an older teenager and started looking for jobs, I passed on to her the things I thought she needed to learn, things I knew would be helpful life skills, things like:
- Dress nicely when you go out and look for work
- Fill out the applications carefully and neatly
- Ask to speak to the manager
- Go back, or call back, a few days later…Follow up!
My daughter listened to me—barely—rolled her eyes, and responded the same way every time:
- M-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-m-m-m-—it’s not like it was when you were younger, you have no clue what it’s like now
- There aren’t any jobs, there just aren’t
- You don’t know what you’re talking about
…followed by a slammed door, or a slammed-down phone (and I’m sparing you the curse words).
I would leave these conversations so downhearted, so discouraged. I would pray, release her and release some more, asking the Divine to take her, take her, guide her, teach her what she needs to learn, what she needs to live a good life, do for her what it seemed I so clearly couldn’t do.
I would lean on my girlfriends, and my sister, for compassion. Even if they couldn’t relate, or really understand, they could still love me through this.
This went on, and on, and on…
And then one day my sister called me, made sure I was sitting down, and then told me this:
I called your daughter to say hi, and asked how she was. She told me that her boyfriend’s nephew was living with them, and was having trouble finding work. And how it was driving her crazy, because no matter how often she told him how he should dress nicely when he went out job-hunting, how he should fill out the applications neatly, how he should talk to the manager, and go back and follow up… No matter how much she told him, he just wouldn’t listen!
What a powerful healing! As of that moment, I stopped worrying about whether or not my kid was listening to me. I stopped flinching when she’d fling negativity at my advice. I stopped feeling discouraged and downhearted and all what’s-the-use, and instead was able to move in and out of sharing lessons with her, knowing that no matter what she’d say, or slam, there was a sponge-y part inside of her soaking up what she needed to learn.
I learned not to stop. To tell the truth. To share from my heart what I have been gifted to know. I apply this lesson to my blogging, to my newsletter writing, to my offers of heart-based branding and web design, to my social networking, to all of it. MY JOB: Show up, share my truth, my heart, my passion. NOT MY JOB: the results, the timeline of the results, the quantity, any of that part. That’s the job of the Divine, and to my eyes, she’s doing a damned good job.
I’d love to hear what lessons you’ve learned about continuing to show up, and how you apply them. Please jump into the conversation in the comments.
Full Moon Lunar Eclipse
Thursday 4/25 12:57 p.m. Pacific, 5º Scorpio
Some of the historical and cultural names for this April Full Moon are Grass Moon, Egg Moon, Seed Moon, Budding Trees Moon, Peony Moon, Wildcat Moon, Growing Moon, Awakening Moon, Planters Moon, and Wind Moon. It’s that time, in the northern hemisphere where I live, of planting, sprouting and beautiful colorful growth.
And with the Scorpio Full Moon, we get reminded to expect the unexpected. With the Sun and Mars in Taurus opposite the Moon and Saturn in Scorpio, the likely themes for this Full Moon are release, acceptance and delayed gratification. Not very pretty, but it may help a bit to know in advance.
A couple of things you might notice:
- Any rash behavior or poorly thought-out decisions might result in an immediate dope-slap from the universe
- You will find yourself letting go of relationships and situations that no longer serve you, but less feeling like you’re in control of the decision and more feeling like—bam!—the decision was just made for you
- Your bullshit detector is set on high alert, and the only kind of communication that you can stand giving—or receiving—is grounded in authenticity and transparency
Resisting change might really pinch this week, so instead, embrace Scorpio’s transformational (yes, as in transform or die) push and blaze that new trail, start that new thing, make that call you’ve been afraid to make. And take off your shoes, wiggle your toes in the sun-warmed dirt, or just fling yourself to the sand at the beach. Connect with Mother Earth, let her embrace ground you as you move through this powerful week.
What are you releasing, and what are you beginning during this Full Moon? Please share in the comments. I love to hear from you!
A word of gratitude
It’s a long blogpost today, so I’ll just wind up by saying I’m grateful for every one of you that reads this. And even more grateful when you take the time to join the conversation by leaving a comment, and when you share this story with your own tribe. In other words, I am grateful for you!